In recent years, there has been such a word appearing on the Internet-broken kiss tide.
What exactly is “broken promiscuity”? As the name suggests,is a trend of cutting off contact with relatives, and even weakening family ties. This trend is contrary to the traditional concept.
Among the traditional concepts, blood family relationship is the most important, and relatives are also worth cherishing for a lifetime. Therefore, countless people regard family affection and loved ones as treasures and hide them in their hearts.
Why does “blood relationship” become a treasure in the eyes of the older generation? This is related to the “family model” of the small peasant society.
Small-scale peasant society is dominated by farming, and due to inconvenient transportation, people depend on the sky for food,In order to cope with risks and cultivate smoothly, relatives in a family will unite to share joys and sorrows and advance and retreat together.
With the disappearance of the small peasant society and the emergence of industrialized society, all walks of life have developed, and relying on the sky for food has become History, the gradual disappearance of the traditional “family model” has also become an inevitable trend.
What’s more,After the arrival of the information society, various production models have changed. And the kinship relationship has also become weak amidst changes in the “production model”. This is the necessity of development.
It can only be said that the emergence of broken marriage is inevitable.
From which generation did the trend of breaking off relatives start to appear? There is no doubt that the post-70s are definitely the first generation. Logically speaking, the post-80s generation is also the first generation. It’s just that the latter pushes “broken relatives” to a new height.
Since the post-70s and post-80s have this attitude of “broken relationship”, then post-90s and post-00s will have What attitude?
Unfortunately,Perhaps the post-90s and post-00s may not even recognize their own relatives If people of the same clan who are about the same age don’t even know, then they basically don’t have the concept of “blood relationship”.
Since the generation after the 70s started to cut off the relationship, why do the post-70s still feel nothing?
There is a saying that goes like this,When everyone regards “leaving their homes” as inevitable After the experience, the wanderer who lives abroad will only gradually become alienated from his hometown until the day when he has nothing to do with him.
When the post-70s became adults, the flow of urban and rural population began to increase frequently. Countless rural people have gone to the big cities along the eastern coast to work hard, and they have seized the opportunity to stay in the big cities.
Generally speaking, as long as the post-70s who own houses and cars in big cities, as long as they are not locals of big cities, they are definitely The beneficiaries of “urban-rural mobility”.
When I come to live in a big city, the neighbors and relatives in my hometown naturally seldom see each other. Slowly, the feeling faded away. What’s more, other people have also moved to big cities to live. In this way, the feeling of hometown is almost gone.
I have seen countless middle-aged people.Once they have settled down in a big city, they immediately take care of their parents who live in their hometown Received a big city to retire.
In their view, their hometown is too poor, and the big cities are rich in resources and have superior living conditions. They have become the first generation to get rid of traditional family ties in the process of urbanization.
Your parents moved to live in a big city, and the whole family of the next-door neighbor also moved to a big city. What about the “hollowing out” of the countryside? Just appeared, and the previous “clan feeling” suddenly disappeared.
Many people will say, is it impossible to cultivate blood relationship in big cities?
There is a characteristic of big cities, that is“reinforced concrete, extremely cold” . In other words, the model of a big city basically cuts off the family ties of the clan, and relatives rarely communicate with each other.
We can find that,There are fewer and fewer people going to visit the New Year, and relatives or colleagues around There are not many blood relatives. This is the best embodiment of breaking off the tide of intimacy.
The post-80s generation is a step further than the post-70s post-70s generation. If the desire is stronger, then it is impossible for them to return to their hometown.
The so-called“The city cannot accommodate the soul, and the hometown cannot accommodate the body”, the first description is the generation born in the 1980s.
In the past, when clan ties were relatively deep, everyone valued family ties, and the probability of unfilial sons being born was extremely small. Nowadays, blood relationship is weakened, and there are more and more unfilial sons.
Some parents are particularly puzzled, why the older my children grow up, the less affection they have, even the basic Are the feelings weaker?
Actually, this is not the problem of the children themselves, but the environment they live in. There is no soil for the breeding of blood and family. The intensification of urbanization will lead to weak human relations, who can change this?
We often criticize the concept of “money first” as bad, but we ourselves are practitioners of the concept of “money first”.
Working outside all year round, or lucky enough to settle in the city, just to get rid of the poor hometown. In the final analysis,In the choice of emotion and class spanning, we chose the latter.
Money comes first, that is the necessity of industrialization and informatization. The richer the material, the stronger people’s desire for material. This kind of desire will slowly wear down people’s feelings.
More importantly,Industrialization and informatization have changed the concept of countless people from “collective mode” to “individual mode”. In other words, people pay more attention to themselves, and they no longer have the old attachment to family or family.
Everything is not a problem of the post-70s or post-80s, they are just witnesses of the changing times.
Text/Deer in Shushan