“Don’t treat your mother-in-law as a mother” is a new type of relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and both daughter-in-law and mother-in-law are very good

Do you have a good relationship with your mother-in-law?


After marriage, few friends and classmates complain about the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. After giving birth, almost everyone complains.

I remember when I was pregnant, we formed a group of pregnant mothers, and the due dates were all at about the same time. Later, babies were born one after another, and this group became “Tucao Mother-in-law” group, every mother is complaining that mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are difficult to get along with.

However, if the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not handled properly, not only the daughter-in-law and mother-in-law are unhappy, but also the husband is caught in the middle, and the children are also unhappy.

However, a new type of relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is becoming popular, which really relaxes people a lot.

Treat each other as guests

Mother Lele in the community gave birth to her second child early last year Lele’s mother brought it herself, because they had a conflict with her mother-in-law during the confinement period, and the relationship between the two was a bit stiff.

At the beginning of the year, Lele’s mother gave birth to her second child, and Lele was not yet at school age. I bought nutritional products and asked my mother-in-law to help with the baby.

Lele’s mother said: Although my mother-in-law dare not use many things at home, and she doesn’t know how to use them, at least I feel more at ease when someone is at home, and I don’t need to go to the kitchen to cook Worried that the child will bump into it.

Finally, Lele’s mother said: I found out that if you want to have a good relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, you must not treat each other as a mother. If it were my mother, what would happen! So I have been in the comparison with my own mother, and in the end I feel uncomfortable, and my mother-in-law feels that I have not received well after paying.

For example, about breastfeeding, if your mother says to drink more soup, you will think that your mother is doing it for your own good, but if your mother-in-law says it, then you will think : This is to let the grandson have something to eat, regardless of whether I like it or not!

So, you must not treat your mother-in-law as your own mother. At the same time, your mother-in-law is also the same. Don’t treat your daughter-in-law as a daughter. Both parties treat each other as guests. up.

It sounds weird at first, but when you think about it, any relationship should be handled like this!

We are always prone to lose our temper and temper with those close to us, but we are very friendly to strangers.

I have also heard such a point of view, all mothers who raise their children as other people’s children will end up with excellent children.

Because once you treat your own children as other people’s children, you will definitely not beat and scold other people’s children, and you will definitely not squeeze other people’s children, so it is easy and loving in this way , An encouraging atmosphere is more conducive to children’s growth.


Treating each other as guests is a kind of understanding

What mother-in-law and daughter-in-law lack most is each other Understand, everyone stands in their own position, the daughter-in-law feels:This is my home, you are a mother-in-law, you should take good care of it, you can’t just treat your son well, but also treat me well!

The mother-in-law thinks: The daughter-in-law should be filial to me and treat me well together with the son!

In addition, the two sides will compare each other. The daughter-in-law always compares her mother-in-law with her own mother, always saying what will happen to her mother-in-law, but the mother-in-law cannot do it, because she is not My dear, and the growing environment is different, how can it be possible to do everything in your heart?

Similarly, a mother-in-law will also compare her daughter-in-law with her daughter. The daughter is her own, so it’s okay to say a few words, but the daughter-in-law is different.

So the key to getting along well with mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is to treat each other as “guests”. Before speaking, think about it: Can I bear the other party saying this to me?

Think about it before doing something, if someone else comes to your house as a guest, is it okay to talk like this?

Mianma said:

Although we all complain about the difficult relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law still needs to be dealt with. The mother-in-law and daughter-in-law get along well, the husband does not need to be caught in the middle, and the relationship between grandma and mother is good, which is also beneficial to the growth of the child.

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