The biggest misfortune for a woman is not being able to marry A good man.
Some people may say that if you are not married to the right man, you can get a divorce. But for some women, once you have a baby, maybe you really don’t have much courage to talk about divorce.
Because divorce is very harmful to children. Even as a father, you can ignore your children, but as a mother, you really have to think about your children.
I still remember seeing such a sentence: “A woman will not lose to marriage, let alone any man, but the only thing she will lose to herself This piece of meat that fell off.”
A few days ago, I went to the hospital to visit a friend, and it turned out that she was in her ward, and there was also a patient living there. A woman who looked like she was in her forties had bruises on her face, obviously she had been beaten, but I didn’t ask much at that time.
While I was chatting with my friends, this woman’s relatives came, they were her brothers and sisters, and after a while, her son followed.
Obviously, her son went downstairs to pick up these relatives. When everyone was seated, the son said: “Mom, today my aunt and My uncles are all here, and I swear here that I will definitely divorce her, and this life must not go on.”
? As he said that, there were tears in the corners of his son’s eyes.
At this time, the mother took her son’s hand and said: “Son, your grandma and family members beat your mother. Mom’s life is bitter. You are the only one for my mother.” Pillar, mom won’t miss your wife’s beating, as long as you can get better, don’t say divorce easily, don’t think about yourself, you have to think about your children!”
At that time, when their mother and son were talking, there was a deathly silence in the whole ward, maybe everyone didn’t know what to say.
This mother, being able to say such words, really makes people feel distressed, and from her expression and eyes, one can see the vicissitudes and difficulties of these years.
Later, after listening to what happened later, I found out about her.
This woman is called Lin Ping (pseudonym), and she has been married to her husband for 27 years. People in that era got married relatively early, so now her son is already Twenty-six years old, she is only forty-five years old.
Lin Ping is a woman with a hard life. After marriage, she has not lived a good life. Neither her in-laws are fuel-efficient lamps. After marriage, she often makes Lin Ping angry .
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Lin Ping I recalled, let alone my husband beat me, even my parents-in-law beat her. Even when I was pregnant, my parents-in-law didn’t give me any delicious food.
Because she liked spicy food when she was pregnant, her in-laws immediately concluded that she must be pregnant with a girl.
Unexpectedly, she was pregnant in October and gave birth to a boy. With a grandson, her parents-in-law are naturally very happy. Although it is true that she likes a grandson, she does not Changing her in-laws and even her husband’s attitude towards her, her own life is still very bitter as always.
My husband doesn’t love me, and my in-laws are also very harsh on me. In Lin Ping’s own words: “No matter how capable I am, I can’t fight three with one. ”
Some people may ask, why didn’t Lin Ping get divorced at that time? In fact, in that era, divorce was a very “shameful” thing, which was different from now.
In the marriage of our previous generation, as long as the other party has not passed away, we can make do with it, we make do with it. At that time, I couldn’t help myself, really a lot. Not only did her natal family not support divorce, but even the secular society would drown divorced women with saliva.
However, Lin Ping’s son is very sensible and filial, so for Lin Ping, the biggest pillar is her son, which is why she still Will stick to the marriage, not the reason for divorce.
? Of course, not because of her She can’t live alone with her son, just because she feels that her son needs a complete family, and more importantly, her husband once threatened her that as long as she divorces, he will not let her see her son again.
Finally, I hoped for my son to grow up. The son grew up and got married. Before the son got married, he said, “Mom, now that the son has grown up and is capable of protecting you, after I get married, I will protect you.” , will be filial to you with my daughter-in-law. “
I really thought that my good days were coming, and after her son got married, Lin Ping has always been very kind to her daughter-in-law.
< p data-track="28">But Lin Ping’s sincerity did not return in the end.
Daughter-in-law is not a fuel-efficient lamp. It’s also very ugly, not to mention that after marriage, she changed her name to mother, even after she got married, she always didn’t call her mother-in-law. Even calling her aunt is a form of respect, but Lin Ping dared not even think about it.
After her son got married, Lin Ping also worked as a cow and a horse for her daughter-in-law, washing clothes and cooking for others. After having a granddaughter, she still has to take care of the children. Lin Ping never complained.
Because, she didn’t want to embarrass her son. Even Lin Ping thought about it. Anyway, once she was suffering in this life, she was not afraid of suffering a little more , as long as the son can have a happy marriage. It is said that her husband beat her, even her in-laws, and even her in-laws did not give her any delicious food when she was pregnant.
Because she liked spicy food when she was pregnant, her parents-in-law immediately concluded that she must be pregnant with a girl.
No What I thought of was that she gave birth to a boy when she was pregnant in October. With a grandson, her in-laws are naturally very happy. Although it is true that she likes her grandson, it has not changed her in-laws, and even her husband’s attitude towards her. Her own life is the same as before. It is still very bitter.
My husband doesn’t love me, and my in-laws are also very harsh on me. In Lin Ping’s own words: “No matter how capable I am, I can’t The way is one against three.
Some people may ask, why didn’t Lin Ping get divorced at that time? In fact, in that era, divorce was a very “shameful” thing, which is different from now.
In the marriage of our previous generation, as long as the other party has not passed away, we can make do with it. At that time, there were really many involuntary things. Not only My natal family does not support divorce, and even the secular society will drown divorced women with saliva.
However, Lin Ping’s son is very She is very sensible and very filial, so for Lin Ping, her biggest support is her son, and this is the reason why she still sticks to her marriage and never divorces.
? Of course, it’s not because she can’t live with her son alone, it’s just because she feels that her son needs a complete family, and more The important thing is that her husband once threatened her that as long as she divorced, he would not let her see her son again.
Finally, I hoped for my son to grow up. Married, the son said before marriage: “Mom, now that the son has grown up and is capable of protecting you, after I get married, I will be filial to you with my wife. “
I really thought that my good days were coming, and after her son got married, Lin Ping has always been very kind to her daughter-in-law.
< p data-track="41">But Lin Ping’s sincerity did not return in the end.
Daughter-in-law is not a fuel-efficient lamp. It’s also very ugly, not to mention that after marriage, she changed her name to mother, even after she got married, she always didn’t call her mother-in-law. Even calling her aunt is a form of respect, but Lin Ping dared not even think about it.
After her son got married, Lin Ping also worked as a cow and a horse for her daughter-in-law, washing clothes and cooking for others. After having a granddaughter, she still has to take care of the children. Lin Ping never complained.
Because, she didn’t want to embarrass her son, and even Lin Ping thought about it, anyway, if she suffers once in this life, she is not afraid of suffering a little more , as long as the son can have a happy marriage.
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Forest Ping’s forbearance didn’t bring any good results. When her granddaughter fell ill, her daughter-in-law also caught up with something that didn’t go her way, so she called her natal family that day, and when the two words didn’t agree, she hit her right away. Lin Ping.
A person who was nearly 60 years old was “sieged” by several people from his daughter-in-law’s family, so Lin Ping felt dizzy at that time. Went to the hospital.
Looking for her family to beat her mother-in-law, Lin Ping’s daughter-in-law felt that she was wronged, and cried to her husband that it was her mother-in-law.Only by taking good care of the child does it make the child sick.
But Lin Ping’s son didn’t lose his head. He ignored his wife and took care of his mother in the hospital. His wife divorced.
Actually, before, Lin Ping’s son also knew that his daughter-in-law was arrogant and domineering, but he saw that his mother was also a woman, and his life was not easy. He didn’t want to be a father For such a man, he thought about loving his wife well.
But now, it is absolutely unacceptable for his wife to bully his mother like this. Therefore, he has already made up his mind that he must not let this go on.
But thinking of her granddaughter, Lin Ping couldn’t bear to let her son divorce. She couldn’t bear to let her granddaughter be taken away by her daughter-in-law. There is no guarantee that the granddaughter will be happy in the future.
? Thinking of this, Lin Ping couldn’t help but recall her son’s childhood, she lived All kinds of pictures are heart-wrenching.
Anyway, the son’s divorce is settled. If there is one thing that pushes the son, it is the mother-in-law who called and scolded Lin Ping. After a call, she also said that if she wanted her daughter to go back to live, Lin Ping had to kneel down and beg her daughter.
In this way, the son and daughter-in-law divorced in the end.
In the end, between mother and wife, Lin Ping’s son chose his mother, but Lin Ping couldn’t be happier. Looking at her toddling granddaughter, Lin Ping was even more Tears continued.
Lin Ping even blamed herself many times: “I have survived the grievances for so many years, why did I not hold on this time!”
Actually, looking back on her own marriage, if she didn’t have her son as a support, she probably would have come to a dead end long ago. But no matter how filial and sensible the son is, it can’t make up for the conscience that the in-laws lack in their hearts. They still treat Lin Ping badly.
Lin Ping said: “I used to regret that I was a woman, otherwise I would not have suffered those hardships. But now I feel very lucky that I am a woman. Because of my son’s filial piety, I am very content.”
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Actually, I don’t blame Lin Ping for this matter. If she survived this time, what about next time?
People will only get worse, and people will only make progress. In that case, maybe Lin Ping thought about saving her son’s marriage, and she felt better, but her son’s conscience was relieved ?
Perhaps such a choice is the best for everyone.
Although it is said that when there is a conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, a man should first stand by his wife’s side and protect her. However, in the face of the matter of beating someone, there is no need to continue to be tolerant and accommodating.
Everything is prioritized. Especially Lin Ping’s daughter-in-law, the purpose of calling her natal family was nothing more than taking advantage of the large number of people to bully Lin Ping.
To be honest, at the time I didn’t believe that there would be such poor people in this world. But thinking about it carefully, the reason why Lin Ping had such an experience had something to do with herself.
If she had not shown weakness to her in-laws from the very beginning, and had directly chosen to call the police or ask her natal family for help when her husband and in-laws attacked her, maybe she would not There will be suffering in the future.
? Also, after her son gets married, as a mother-in-law, if she From the beginning, I greeted my daughter-in-law well. I can sacrifice everything for my son’s happiness, but I also need the minimum respect.
However, there are not so many ifs in reality.
Lin Ping said: “Although I feel that it is a pity for my son to divorce now, I will still do my best to let my granddaughter live a good life.”
In fact, life is so cruel. We have not encountered many things, but it has indeed happened, even right beside us, but we have not observed it carefully.
Sometimes, the human heart is like this, it always follows the hearts of others, separated by two stomachs.
In life, no one owes anyone, and no one is good to others for no reason. The reason why there is a debt or a good, it is because of feelings as a tie.
Mencius said: “He who loves others will always be loved; and whoever respects others will always be respected.”
Thinking about it, these words are most suitable for Lin Ping People like daughter-in-law have introspected.
Can you tolerate your daughter-in-law doing something to her mother-in-law?
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