In the Tao Te Ching, Lao Tzu wrote: “Heaven and earth are not benevolent, and all things are dogs.”
The way of heaven is inherently ruthless. No matter who you are or what you have achieved, God will not favor you, but treat everyone equally.
In fact, in Taoism, “ruthlessness” is the thought of Laozi and Zhuangzi.
Not only is God ruthless, even a mature person must live a “ruthless” life.
In terms of interpersonal relationships, Lao Tzu believes that “the voices of chickens and dogs hear each other, and the old and the dead do not communicate with each other”. Only by maintaining a certain distance and giving up a certain relationship can the relationship between people be harmonious and beautiful.
In terms of dealing with people, Zhuangzi believes that “heaven and earth coexist with me, and all things are one with me”. We treat all things in the world equally, just as all things are one with us. This is not ruthless, but a kind of calmness and maturity that see through the vicissitudes of the world.
Modern people often don’t understand that they think they are “feeling” or “emotional”, so that they can get comfort and sincerity from others Treat each other. That’s just wishful thinking.
Some relationships, as long as the number of exchanges between the two parties is more, I believe that there will be conflicts between people and even deepen hatred.
Being a human being, you should be appropriately ruthless, especially when dealing with the following relationships, we should not be too affectionate, that is maturity.
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When dealing with strangers, we want to Appropriately ruthless.
I have seen a lot of white people in the workplace. When I came to the workplace, I used my hot face to post the coldness of others. butt. But in the end, they lived a humble life and were despised by others.
Imagine, a stranger has nothing to do with you, and if you are so good to others, even close to others, how can others treat you What about kindness?
Imagine, some people are just hurried passers-by around you, and they don’t like you at all, then what’s the point of you being so enthusiastic Woolen cloth?
The most stupid act of being a human being is to think that one’s “true feelings” can be exchanged for the sincerity of others. This seems a bit wishful thinking.
The older generation said it well, Look at things with a cold eye Be loving.
The “cold” here does not mean no emotion, but it is necessary to keep the attitude towards certain people and things With a “calm” attitude, you must not act impulsively or get carried away.
To treat strangers, we should be ruthless, this is the wisdom of life.
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The relationship with the “little person”, We have to be appropriately ruthless.
For the villain, Xunzi believes, respect the villain and stay away.
The villain has harmed us, we must fight back in time, and we can’t always look ahead and be kind. Conversely, if villains are harmful to our minds, then we just need to stay away from them.
I saw one thing once.
Xiao Wang in the workplace always feels that kindness is rewarded. Therefore, he lends a helping hand to the villain and gives him the best help. Who knows, the other party stepped on him and made him gain nothing.
This only shows one truth, It is too good to treat a villain like a “viper” , that is not goodness, but ignorance.
Just like in the old “Farmer and the Snake”, you saved a poisonous snake and put it in your breast. Then your final result is nothing more than being bitten by a snake.
Don’t test humanity with your heart. Perhaps, if we are ruthless towards the villain, and even choose not to interact with them, I believe that we can live more and more safely.
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Treatment of “fake” relatives Relationships, we have to be appropriately ruthless.
Since ancient times, love has not lasted for a long time, and human nature has been unpredictable since ancient times.
If it is said that outsiders will hurt us and betray us, it is inevitable, and false relatives, they The rank is higher than that of ordinary villains.
In the workplace, you need to be hypocritical with others. And in the family, you also need to be hypocritical with the villain. How would you feel at this time?
The feeling is, this family relationship is really not reliable, in the face of material interests, basically is vulnerable.
Why do relatives flatter you, and why do some friends treat you particularly well? The other party will only look at the interests of being a man, but will not look at the feelings of being a man.
This is what we call a “relationship of interest”.
If it is an interest relationship, we only need to deal with customers, why should we deal with relatives and friends? There is really no need.
We might as well live a little more ruthless with our phony relatives. At least, our ruthlessness will protect the true feelings hidden deep in our hearts.
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Treat the “Unthankful” Social Relationships, we have to be appropriately ruthless.
Some time ago, a reader told me something.
Ten years ago, he lent the money to his cousin, who would have known that the cousin kept dragging the money back, and he kept saying this My cousin doesn’t talk about family, only money and not people.
In response, this reader sighed, I have lent money to my cousin, and I have done my best, why does the other party still say I don’t? What about affection? Isn’t this outrageous behavior?
This is the white-eyed wolf who does not know gratitude. Your kindness will only arouse his greed, and will not make him change. Even if he is your relative, it is unlikely that he will say “thank you” to you.
You help outsiders, and outsiders will be grateful to you. However, you helped some relatives and friends, but they turned a blind eye. This is their unconscience, and our unwiseness.
When dealing with “unthankful” social relationships, our best practice is not to argue for reasons, but to stay away in time. Talking too much to people with no conscience is just playing the piano to a cow, it is meaningless. Staying away is the answer.
Text/Shushan has deer