Did you work with your teammates on the road to raising children? How is it divided?
Let’s hear the story of the mother @fish soup of Lilac Mama Planet.
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Married people say: marriage is love ‘s grave.
People who have children say: Only when you have a baby do you know that you are marrying a man or a ghost.
So, is getting married and having children really that scary?
It’s not actually, it’s not the marriage and childbirth itself that is scary, but the inhumans that you meet.
My dad and I have been together for 5 years, from love to marriage, from two people to three people, from dry wood to fire From the passion to the care of the details of life, there is no shortage of “good night” before going to bed, and the intention of confirming each other has not changed.
For five years, he never hung up on me, he would take care of all the housework and treat my dad Mom is more attentive than I am, and will remember to take the initiative to report to me when I return home late from social events, and will keep my little hobbies in my heart. There are not many flower gifts on anniversaries, and there are always surprises on birthdays.
We are couples who support each other, lovers who are still heartbroken, parents who work hard to live, and knowledgeable. Children of kindness.
I have something to say about how to get along with new parents:
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100% honest communication
To truly understand each other
“Severe mental friction” is a perfect description for me. I may ponder over and contemplate several meanings of someone else’s unintentional words. The surface is calm, but in fact, the heart is already turbulent, and there is even a tsunami. But fortunately, I was sensitive and I met a teammate who was a big warm man.
When I first gave birth, I always fell into strong self-doubt, I felt cold, I felt out of shape, I felt Your own value is gone.
In addition to taking the baby, Dad in June also finds various topics to encourage me. Even at work, he will often call me, send messages, and share with What happened to me at work. After get off work, he will take the initiative to accompany me out for a walk, let me see the beauty of life, take care of my feelings from trivial details, and let me know that having a child is not a minus point for a woman’s charm, but a plus point.
I was insecure and worried that love would turn into family, so he cooperated with me and reconfirmed his loyal and unswerving feelings to me countless times every day. No impatience, no perfunctory, took me out of the lowest period of time.
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When it comes to parenting, Dad June and I agree that “natural” is the best. There are countless parents who want their children to become dragons, but there are very few real people. As parents, we provide our children with a warm family atmosphere, and we can guide our children with excellent quality by example. As for the grades, the rankings, and the extracurricular skills, we support, but do not demand.
In terms of being a child, we should never bite the bullet and give our hearts and minds. Including the most difficult period of buying a house and decorating it, we saved the money given by our parents in their names without moving a penny. We completed the construction of a small family entirely by ourselves. It is an unreturnable kindness for our parents to raise us up. How can we bear to eat them clean?
Don’t be stingy with praise
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Do not evade responsibility
Marriage is a solid relationship formed by two people who have nothing to do with each other, out of the purest affection. In this relationship, in addition to possessing each other, we should also share the responsibilities we face together.
Dad in June has taken care of all the housework at home, but I will not stand idly by. Before I had a child, I would move the table and chairs beside him when he was cleaning, and when he was cooking, I would pick a vegetable beside him. If there was no work to do, I would accompany him to talk and talk. After having a baby, I will guide the baby to say “Dad is awesome”, “Applause for Daddy”, “Dad’s cooking is delicious”.
With one more person participating, the boring housework seems to be easier.
In terms of taking care of children, changing diapers, wearing clothes and making complementary food is June’s father’s job, while feeding complementary food and reading picture books and telling stories is my job , Men and women are matched, and work is not tiring. Only when the division of labor is clear can we cooperate happily.
From another point of view, this is also beneficial to the cultivation of parent-child relationship, avoiding children only kissing their mothers or only liking their fathers.
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Seek common ground while reserving differences, long time not tired
Do not smoke or play games , June’s only hobby is football, for which I fully support it.
Before I have a child, I will accompany him to watch the game. Even if I don’t understand it, the enthusiasm I show is enough Make him happy.
It takes a lot of energy and time after having a baby. In June, Dad’s hobbies have also been greatly reduced. The possibility of watching football on the spot is basically zero, and he can only watch TV (in fact, TV is only watched once every half a month or even a month). If there is a ball game, I will take the initiative to take the child to another room to play with toys or read picture books. Let him enjoy the rare relaxation time.
The same as before pregnancy, I still like makeup and new clothes, and my father in June never interferes. When I put on makeup He will take the initiative to take the baby without disturbing me. When I buy clothes, he will give me serious advice instead of saying that I wasted money.
It’s not easy to bring a baby. In the days when chickens fly and dogs dance, leave a little space for each other and be good At the same time as children and parents, they also occasionally do themselves. When running for life, they do not forget to add some sweetness to themselves.
Love is easy, but marriage is not easy. May every heart be cherished.
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