A young man in Henan was facing a breakdown in his marriage. He drove to his wife’s family’s community with a banner hanging up a banner, and demanded the return of a high-value bride price with a loudspeaker. This incident has sparked heated discussions recently.
On November 27, Li Shouning, the person involved, responded to reporters that he was from a rural area, and he wanted to marry a wife A total of 510,000 yuan was spent, part of which was borrowed. But only 33 days after marriage, his wife returned to her natal home and the two began to separate. He sued for divorce, but his wife disagreed. In order to resolve this matter as soon as possible, and to recover part of the bride price, he had no other way to drive to his wife’s natal home to pull up the banner. Li Shouning’s mother-in-law said that Li Shouning’s remarks were not completely true, and all the results are awaiting the court’s decision.
The young man pulls a banner asking for a refund of the dowry (picture provided by the interviewee)< /span>
It costs 510,000 yuan to marry a wife
Li Shouning is a 25-year-old native of Zhumadian, Henan. In 2021, he was introduced by a matchmaker and met a local woman, Qian Yulu.
“The two are very close, only 3 kilometers apart, and we both think each other is good.< span>Just three days after we met, we got engaged under the advice of a matchmaker.” Li Shouning said that he bid farewell to his fiancée a few days after the engagement, and went to work thousands of miles away with his parents in Wenzhou, Zhejiang. After entering the construction site, my mother worked as a waiter, and he delivered food.
“In my mind, I will have a wife if I get engaged, and I just wait for a good day to marry her into the family.” Li Shouning Working outside, he always misses his fiancée in his hometown. He often gives her some small surprises, such as the first cup of milk tea in autumn, gifts for Valentine’s Day, gifts for Qixi Festival, birthday gifts, etc., all of which should have a sense of ritual.
Even when his mother-in-law celebrates her birthday in the future, he will still go shopping for gifts at 1 o’clock in the morning and send a filial piety, “Because she will also be My mother.” Li Shouning is full of expectations for the future married life.
On January 28, 2022, Li Shouning put on a suit he had never worn before, married Qian Yulu, and started a newlywed life. On February 14, 2022, the two received their marriage certificate.
Gold and silver jewelry (picture provided by the interviewee)
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Engagement money 88,000 yuan, wedding gift 99,000 yuan, gold and silver jewelry 42,000 yuan, change of mouth fee 22,000 yuan, getting on and off the car and reversing The wine cost is 15,000 yuan, “Our family originally had a car, their family asked to buy a car worth nearly 160,000 yuan, Adding in the money for the wedding company, banquets, and relatives’ redress fees, almost 510,000 yuan was spent in total.” Li Shouning’s mother, Gao Fengying, said, Of the 510,000 yuan, 160,000 yuan was borrowed from relatives and friends.
Shortly after marriage, Li Shouning’s parents embarked on the journey of going out to work again, leaving only the newly married young couple at home .
Separated after 33 days of marriage
Li Shouning introduced that at around 9:00 pm on March 3, 2022, he returned home after a day of work, closed the door, and fell asleep not long after.
“She went to help the ear picking shop that day and came back at 12 o’clock in the evening, but she didn’t open the door with the key, and then called me The phone call, I fell asleep and didn’t hear it, so she went back to her natal home. I called back early the next morning and apologized to her, and then the two reconciled, but she has been living in her natal home since then.” Li Shouning said, his wife I lived in my mother’s house for more than two months.
At the end of May, Gao Fengying returned to her hometown from other places, and then went to invite her daughter-in-law with her son Li Shouning. Said that on June 8, he came to his mother-in-law’s house again to pick up his daughter-in-law, but this time it was still very unpleasant and even had a dispute.
“Qian Yulu saw me arguing with her mother, so she went to my house to remove the door lock, packed up my clothes and left, and I happened to be going back I met her on the road, and this time we broke up completely.” Li Shouning said that afterward, his wife blocked his mobile phone number and WeChat account, and even went into hiding.
“The mother-in-law said, since the two of you can’t get along, let’s get together and break up. Those under their own names belong to each other. I said we only passed 33 days, you can refund part of the bride price to us, at this time she immediately turned her face, and asked me to sue wherever I love, Refuse to negotiate.” Li Shouning said that in order to have a result and to recover part of the dowry, he filed a divorce lawsuit in the local court.
In June 2022, the case will be heard in the local court. Qian Yulu did not appear in court, but she told the court through other channels that what Li Shouning said about the breakdown of the relationship between the husband and wife was not true, and that the relationship between the husband and wife was very good.
Qian Yulu also said that she had conceived a child for Li Shouning. On March 3, 2022, she was locked out by Li Shouning and did not go back that day. She had a cold and a fever and recuperated for two days, and then returned to her husband’s house. “Husband and wife love each other, care about each other, have a stable relationship, and resolutely disagree with divorce.” Qian Yulu said.
As for the idea of ”returning to her in-laws”, Li Shouning said that it was purely Qian Yulu’s rhetoric. As for his wife’s pregnancy, Li Shouning said that he was not clear, and he had many doubts.
In the end, the court did not allow the two to divorce. Li Shouning refused to accept the judgment and appealed. The second trial is scheduled for December 2022.
Hanging up a banner while driving to ask for a refund
The wife refused to divorce and lost contact, and the mother-in-law’s family also refused to mediate. Recently, Li Shouning hung a banner on the car and drove the horn to the community where Qian Yulu’s natal family lived to ask for a bride price.
The video shows that there is a large banner hanging on the white body, and the red background and yellow letters read: “Qian Yulu didn’t get along with me, return it to me Dowry gift!” Another video shows that there is a speaker on the hood of the car, playing in a loop: “Your daughter and I spent a month, but it’s over, return my dowry money…”
The young man pulls a banner asking for the dowry refund (picture provided by the interviewee)
“We only lived together for 33 days, and we don’t ask them to return all of them, only part of them.”Li Shouning’s mother, Gao Fengying, said that in order to deal with the matter, she had rushed back to her hometown from other places. In order to pay off the debt as soon as possible, her husband continued to work in other places. “When I think of the money, my heart hurts, and the child’s father also worries about it all day long.” Gao Fengying said.
On the morning of November 27, the reporter called Qian Yulu’s mobile phone, but the number was already shut down. Later, the reporter called Qian Yulu’s younger brother, but he hung up the phone as soon as he heard the word “Li Shouning”.
Qian Yulu’s mother said that she didn’t plan to divorce at first, but now because Li Shouning is making trouble all day long, she has no choice but to stay together, and all the results are waiting for the court’s decision. “The money was left in their house. What he said was not true. Lulu returned it in June.” Qian Yulu’s mother said.
“If the money was left at our house, why would I still ask them for it? Qian Yulu did come back once in June, but in the middle of the night she returned I’m back at my mother’s house.” Li Shouning refuted his mother-in-law’s argument.
Li Shouning said that now the whole family wants to solve this matter quickly. “A total of 510,000 yuan was spent on getting married. The car was in my name, not counting her expenses. We calculated and spent a total of more than 300,000 yuan for her. Her dowry was a few quilts and two people’s living suits. Equivalent to about 10,000 yuan, we only ask them to return more than 40,000 yuan of gold and silver jewelry and 100,000 yuan in cash.” Li Shouning said.
Dong Wenming, a lawyer from Hubei Zhenghe Law Firm, said that regarding the issue of the refund of bride price, 〉Interpretation of the Marriage and Family Section (1) Article 5 stipulates three kinds of refundable situations: one is that the two parties have not gone through the marriage registration procedures; the other is that the two parties have gone through the marriage registration procedures but have not lived together; life is difficult. If the latter two cases apply, it should be conditional on the divorce of both parties.
In this case, only Li Shouning and the woman can claim the return of the bride price if they divorce successfully. The requirements for the refund of the bride price after the divorce are relatively strict, but if the living time of the two parties is obviously short, the bride price is too high, the woman is obviously at fault for the divorce, and the man pays the bride price, causing life difficulties, the court will generally make a judgment after comprehensive consideration Return part of the dowry.
In addition, Lawyer Dong also stated that Article 1042 of the “Civil Code” prohibits obtaining property through marriage. The freedom to marry is protected by law, and no one is allowed to ask for property to collect money in the name of marriage, otherwise it will be deemed illegal by the court and demanded to be returned.
In the article, Li Shouning, Qian Yulu, Gao Fengying, etc. are pseudonyms
(Content source: Zhejiang Online)
Source: Yueniu News