Su Shi: How to see a person thoroughly

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It can be seen clearly or lightly.

By Insight Leyla

If you ask me, among the ancient literati, who made the most friends?

I have only one answer: Su Shi.

According to the statistics of scholars, Su Shi has nearly a thousand friends in his circle of friends.

From princes and writers to merchants and pawns, from prosperous Kyoto to mountain villages, Su Shi has friends all over the world.

In an age without cell phones and computers, this number of friends is a miracle.

But Su Shi also said: “I am saddened by the snow in the east column, and life can be seen clearly.” span>

The more people you interact with, the more insightful you will be on the complexity of human hearts.

After the hustle and bustle, Su Shi tells you how to quickly see a person.


Small things look at human nature

Humans are animals that are good at camouflage.

But no matter how shrewd people are, they will reveal their truest character in inadvertent little things.

After all, subconscious words and actions can better reflect a person’s heart.

Once, Su Shi and his friend Xie Jingwen went for a walk in the suburbs.

An injured bird fell from the tree, and Su Shi just wanted to lean over and pick up the bird.

Xie Jingwen strode forward and kicked the bird aside.

A casual action made Su Shi’s heart feel a little colder.

He determined that this person must be a bully, a person who harms others and benefits himself, and should not be in close friendship.

As expected, Xie Jingwen later framed Su Shi for smuggling illicit salt for profit, and tried several times to put Su Shi to death.

You can see the leopard at a glance, and know the autumn when a leaf falls.

The ugliness and brilliance of human nature can be seen most clearly in some inadvertent little things.

Su Shi also had a close friend named Zhang Dun in his early years.

One day, the two of them were playing in the mountains, and when they walked to a cliff, there was only a single-plank bridge in front of them.

Zhang Dun proposed to let Su Shi cross the bridge and leave their names on the cliff.

Seeing the abyss under the bridge, Su Shi shook his head to express his rejection.

But seeing Zhang Dun walk easily without changing his face, he wrote the words “Su Shi Zhang Dun came here for a visit” on the cliff.

After coming back, he looked calm.

So, Su Shi couldn’t help sighing and said: “You will be able to kill someone someday.”

Zhang Dun asked: “Why? ?”

Su Shi said: “If you don’t cherish your own life, you won’t cherish the lives of others.”< /span>

A few years later, Zhang Dun became prime minister, and his former political enemies were either killed or denounced.

Sima Guang, who had argued with him, had already passed away at this time, and Zhang Dun still did not give up, demanding that his grave be dug, his tomb dug up, and his corpse was whipped.

He’s ruthless, which is evident.

There is an old saying in China: “The product appears in the world, and the heart hides in the body.”< /p>

Life is a mixed bag, and often what we see in front of us is just an appearance.

The deep face of a person needs to be known through the usual clues.

A person with valuable character, even in the smallest detail, can stick to his heart and keep his goodness.

Those who are virtuous are just the opposite.

They can ignore the bottom line in the little things, or they can be insensitive in the big things; they can drink with you today, or they can turn around and betray you.

Details are often the best way to see a person.

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Looking at the heart in the face of joy and anger

In “Lu In the book “The Spring and Autumn Annals”, there used to be “eight views and six experiences” to recognize people.

The most important two of them are “If you are happy, you will test your guard, if you are angry, you will test your festival.”

If you want to see the size of a person’s pattern, you must test it through emotions such as mood and anger.

Because people only show true self-restraint and mind when they are in extreme emotions.

In the first year of Song Zhezong, Prime Minister Sima Guang passed away, and a group of officials went to the Prime Minister’s Mansion to offer condolences.

I didn’t expect to go to the door, but I didn’t see Sima Guang’s son coming to greet him.

Only when I asked, I found out that it was the leader of the Los Angeles Party, Cheng Yi, who forbade them to come out.

The reason is that Cheng Yi believes that there is no such rule in ancient rituals, and if a filial son is truly filial, he should be so sad that he cannot see anyone.

Faced with Cheng Yi’s statement, Su Shi felt it was absurd: “This is a kind of dregs and ritual system, which is not advisable.”

Originally, this sentence is just a matter of fact.

But Cheng Yi felt that Su Shi had brushed his face in front of everyone, so he became angry.

He ignored Sima Guang’s funeral, and raised his voice to argue in front of everyone.

Since then, Cheng Yi saw that Su Shi was a thorn in the flesh, and the resulting “Shuluo Party Contest” lasted for decades.

The so-called, usually unknowingly, peeks into people’s hearts by anger.

A person with a small pattern will be fussy about other people’s words and actions, burning with anger.

A person with a big pattern can tolerate others, but also can restrain himself, and he will not be brooding between happiness and anger.

When Su Shi was in Yangzhou, there was a banquet with guests, and the calligrapher Mi Fu was also present.

The literati circle at that time believed that although Mi Fu was talented, he had a weird personality and was arrogant and arrogant.

So halfway through the banquet, Mi Fu stood up and asked Su Shi, “Everyone says I’m crazy, what do you think?”

Su Shi had to laugh and tell the truth: “I follow the crowd.”

Being a narrow-minded person, he might have been annoyed long ago.

But Mi Fu was different. He laughed with everyone, and instead made a beautiful talk.

Mountains are high as peaks, and the sea is full of rivers.

The pattern of human life is very big, so it will not sink in trivial makeup.

A truly powerful person will not get angry over a trivial matter or hold a grudge because of a conflict.

Compared to those who get angry when they disagree with each other, those who can still keep an open mind in anger are worthy of deep friendship.


< p>Seeing the truth in good times and bad

Mr. Yang Jiang said:

When you are in a high position, all you see are flashy dreams. When you are in a lowly position, you have the opportunity to see the truth of the world.

Applause and follow are always easy when people are in the scenery.

Once you fall, you can really see who is fake and who is real.

Su Shi has a painter friend named Li Gonglin.

When Su Shi was an extremely famous official and famous all over the world, the two of them chatted and laughed happily, drinking and singing.

Especially in the Yuanyou period, Li Gonglin painted the statues of the temples of Su Jiaban.

But when Su Shi was demoted to the south and moved to the south with his family, he met Li Gonglin on the road.

Su Guo, the son of Su Shi, wanted to greet him, but Li Gonglin rode on the horse, covered his face with a fan, turned his face away, and pretended not to know him.

I remember a saying, “How many people around you treat you sincerely, and how many are acting in a show, you will know it once you are in trouble.”

The unpredictable change of people’s hearts, true and false feelings, all need time to examine, in order to see the real.

Beside Su Shi, there was another group of people.

They sent countless warmth to Su Shi when he was down, and gave him the greatest kindness when he was in adversity.

For example, Chen Shizhong.

After the “Wutai Poetry Case”, Chen Shizhong was implicated and suffered a lot. But he didn’t mind, and repeatedly took the initiative to write letters to Su Shi.

In the poems he usually writes, “Ten Changs Four Five” refers to the Su Shi brothers.

Even Su Shi couldn’t help but sigh: “How deep is the love.”

< span>For example, Ma Mengde.

Ma Mengde was notoriously poor.

Su Shi once wrote in his diary: Mengde and I were born in the same year and month. We are both poor ghosts, but in comparison, Mengde is still a little poorer.

After Su Shi was demoted to Huangzhou, Ma Meng had to run around and use the only savings to find a piece of land for Su Shi to cultivate and solve the problem of Su Shi’s family. livelihood issues.

In the mud, you know horses, but you know people in difficult situations;

True friendship is never a cup of tea in a happy spring, but a helping hand in poverty.

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Sincere sincerity will last forever in the experience of the years.

Those friends who stay with you when you are down are worth cherishing for a lifetime.

Looking at Su Shi’s life, there are three ups and downs.

Some people praised him and helped him, while others slandered him and destroyed him.

But no matter how many people he sees clearly and how many things he sees through, he will be able to dispel the smoke of gunpowder with a light smile.

Sophisticated and human-like, for him, it can be seen clearly or despised.

The so-called wisdomThe way of life is like this.

Like Like, I hope you can keep a pair of discerning eyes in the turbulent world.

Wave goodbye to the wrong person, and spend the rest of your life with the right person.

Keep a calm heart and be a free person in the world.