In the vast majority of families with children in China, the children are “the center of the center”. Grandparents, grandparents, mothers and fathers revolve around their children all day long, worrying about everything, from pregnancy, to the whole pregnancy, the birth of a child, going to kindergarten, elementary school, junior high school, high school, until college, the child works, gets married, Buying a house, etc., is almost a chain, without a day’s interruption, that is really a word “difficult”. Why this phenomenon occurs, mainly due to “eight reasons”.
First, expectations are too high
I want my children to excel, go to a good university, and have a good job , find a good spouse. Therefore, almost the whole family is devoted to training and education.
Second, the comparison is too heavy
“Can’t lose at the starting line” is the common code of conduct for every parent. What others have, and what others don’t have.
Third, too much participation
Grandpa and grandma, grandfather and grandmother, mother and father all joined the battle, “I’m afraid of being scared when I put it at home, but I’m afraid it will melt when I hold it in the palm of my hand.” All things revolve around the child’s needs and routes all day long. The child has to take care of everything. The more detailed the better, the happier it is.
Fourth, too much interference
Children’s food, clothing, housing, transportation, clothes The reasonable collocation of the shoes, the comfort of the sneakers, even what to eat in the morning, what to eat at noon, what to eat in the evening, what drinks to drink at ordinary times, etc., all have to be managed well, it is really comprehensive.
Fifth, there are too many amateur classes
There are various training classes, interest classes and specialty classes in the society. Yes, I can’t wait for my child to become an all-around champion. After this class, I go to another class, which is almost like a relay race.
Sixth, lack of cultivating assertiveness
Information overload, all about children’s training, training, education, quality improvement, etc. Everyone is interested in the information and wants to get it right. But which class should I enroll in? What is the most beneficial training for children, etc., and lack of assertiveness, indecision all day long, can not agree.
Seventh, Dad’s participation is not enough
The participation of grandparents, grandparents and grandparents is too much, resulting in less participation of fathers in the training, care and care of children. The mother is busy around the child’s eating, drinking and leasing all day long, but the father has become an outsider, and it is rare to have leisure time.
Eighth, consumption is not rational
As long as the child wants something, that is to buy, buy ,purchase. Parents don’t buy it, Grandpa and grandma, grandma and grandma buy it. Anyway, if you have money, you spend it on your grandson and grandson, and you will be happy and happy. Why not?