As parents, we all want our children to be successful and have a happy life, but due to different education, the results may be very different. Treat children with “6 dislikes” and “3 disregards”, children will be better and happier in the future.
1. About “6 not used to”
1. Not used to children’s willfulness
There are times when a child is disobedient. If you obey him at this time, he will become more and more aggressive, and he will take this approach when he is unhappy. So from the very beginning, he must be given a certain understanding of what things can work and what things can’t, and will gradually change his wayward thoughts.
2. I am not used to children being foolish.
When children’s needs are not met, it is easy to be foolish, rolling, Crying, blackmailing your parents, insisting that you meet his demands. If parents compromise too many times, children will form a wrong judgment, that is, as long as they keep crying, they can always get what they want.
3. Not accustomed to children not doing housework
Children must do housework within their ability, such as, Washing your own socks, small clothes, cleaning the floor, picking green vegetables, making a soy sauce to buy a bottle of vinegar, simple cooking, etc., have formed certain labor habits and become normal. Resolutely eradicate the habit of not doing housework.
4. Not used to children’s lack of parenting
Good parenting is an important foundation for children to go to society and succeed in their careers in the future. For example, respecting parents, being polite to others, refraining from swearing, washing hands before eating, observing social ethics, caring for public property, protecting the environment, etc. A well-educated child is an important prerequisite and foundation for a harmonious and happy family.
5. Not accustomed to children being unruly
Children must understand and abide by the rules from an early age. Sitting and sitting, eating and eating, acting in a strict manner, and being a decent person. Do not do things that violate laws and regulations, social morals, and family virtues.
6. Not used to children’s bad habits
Good habits should start from childhood. For example, don’t waste food, don’t swear, don’t swear, don’t steal other people’s things, don’t go to dangerous places, etc. Good habits will help children succeed in the future. Otherwise, once you develop some bad habits, you will regret it too late.
2. About “3 regardless”
1. What children can do by themselves
Children have very powerful abilities from an early age, but we have not developed them. For the things that the child can do well by himself, try not to worry about it, let him find a way to do it by himself, and develop the child’s hands-on ability.
2. Setbacks that children can overcome
Children may encounter many setbacks in the process of growing up. If he can overcome it, he must let him work hard and taste the surprise and excitement brought by overcoming it. For example, if the child fails to play with building blocks many times, let him try more, and he will definitely do well in the end.
3. Choices a child can make
A child’s self-selection should respect the child’s wishes. For example, if you have ten yuan, is it to buy food or play? It is entirely up to the child to make his own decisions, and gradually the child’s decision-making awareness will be formed, and he will experience the joy of making the right choice.