What do seniors fear most when they remarry?

It is said that “young couples are old companions”. When people reach old age, they feel that nothing is scary, but they are most afraid of loneliness and loneliness without a wife in their old age. Indeed, after a certain age, people will gradually look down on life and death, and see through some of the mundane world, but getting old without a partner is the most difficult thing to face.

Therefore, many elderly people who are single in their later years will choose to remarry to find a wife, and they will be together in the form of partners to spend a long old age. However, this method of remarriage is not so easy to maintain. Just like a 70-year-old Uncle Wu in our community, the second year after his wife died, he partnered with a woman who was 5 years younger than him. Uncle Wu lived his life with the idea of ​​a lifetime, and loved his wife like a baby, but in the end, he really made a mistake and broke up after 2 years of remarriage.

After experiencing the pain of remarriage, Uncle Wu feels that it is not easy for the elderly to remarry and find a wife, and there are too many things to worry about and fear. Find trouble for yourself in your old age!

narrator: Uncle Wu, 70 years old

My name is Wu Guoming, 70 years old this year 10 years old and retired. Originally, I could live happily in retirement, because my monthly pension was more than 5,000 at that time, and my wife was a very hard-working woman, so I didn’t have to do anything at home, and I was taken care of by my wife. like a child. However, unfortunate events interrupted my beautiful life early. My wife died of illness in the fourth year of my retirement.

My life became very chaotic after my wife left, and I couldn’t adapt to anything, but luckily I had some money in my hand, and I couldn’t cook, so I would live every day. If I don’t know how to take care of the room, I pay for part-time workers to do it; I get bored at home, so I go around.

After finally adjusting to a person’s life, God played a joke on me again. When I was 66 years old, because I forgot to take antihypertensive medicine, when I was watching TV at home, I suddenly felt dizzy and collapsed on the sofa. Fortunately, the part-time worker came to my house to clean up that day, and fortunately I gave her a spare key before she could find out that I was sick. And fortunately, it was delivered on time, and I was fine, and I was fine after a few days of rest. So, if it weren’t for such a fortunate thing, I might not be in this world.

After this thrilling encounter, I no longer dared to live alone. I feel that as people grow older, there will be more or less diseases and accidents. When something happened, no one around me found out in time, just like when I got sick this time, I was really about to die.

I have an only son. After he knew about my accident, he kept asking me to move to his place, and the son’s family said that the hospital around his house is a public hospital. Society will be better than mine. But I didn’t go. It wasn’t because I was hypocritical, but because my son’s family was in a very special situation, and his daughter-in-law was also an only daughter. Now the in-laws have been living with their son’s parents for several years on the pretext of bringing their grandson. Although I had a place to live in the past, but I was living in the same house with my in-laws, I felt very uncomfortable.

After I didn’t go to my son’s house, I planned to find a nanny to take care of me at home. However, the current nanny market is really outrageous. If you want to hire a live-in nanny, it will cost 4-5 thousand yuan. A person like me with a pension of only over 5,000 can’t be hired at all. Even if he asks for a monthly meal fee, he still has to ask his son for it. It’s not feasible to think about it. And when I look for a nanny, I just want someone to accompany me and take care of me. When I encounter any illness or accident, someone can appear at the first time. Therefore, I feel that it is very extravagant and a waste of money to ask me to spend 4-5 thousand yuan to hire a nanny to serve my life.

If I don’t find a nanny, my life is not very good, what should I do? An old lady in the community who often works as a matchmaker came to me: “Old Wu, you can find a wife to live with you if you have a house and a pension!” So, I followed the idea of ​​giving it a try. Let the eldest sister help me find my wife.

After several rounds of blind dates, I fell in love with an Axia who was 5 years younger than me. Axia is a laid-off worker with no pension, but she has two sons, both of whom are married. But because the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law were not in harmony, Axia kept separating from her two sons. The sons lived in a new house. Axia rented a house outside and worked odd jobs to support her living.

As soon as I learned about Asya’s family environment, I liked her very much because I felt like A woman like Axia, who is not very good financially, will definitely prefer a man like me with the right conditions. Women are nothing more than asking for support. So, sure enough, after getting along with Axia for a few days, she said she was willing to be with me. Partner life, but she wants me to show some sincerity. At first I thought she wanted me to buy her gold and silver jewelry, but when I bought her a few decent earrings and rings, she felt gold It’s not true, you want me to give you some money for the betrothal gift.

I also know that when a woman gets married, it is indeed a betrothal gift, so I gave Asia 39,999 yuan, which means we remarry It has been a long time. Axia was very satisfied with my dowry, and she took me to move things for her to live in my house on the same day.

After Axia came to my house, I My life has indeed changed a lot. First of all, there is anger in the family, everything is cleaned up by Axia, and it makes me feel that the days are no longer lonely, and the nights are no longer lonely. However, I did not like In the past, I let my wife do everything, and I would also help Axia with the housework, otherwise she would do it all alone, and I was afraid she would get bored and leave me.

After I had Asia, I was very afraid that she would leave, so I would almost follow her when she said anything, and I would give whatever she wanted, as long as she could always be with me and love me. When I’m not well, I’ll just do my best to take care of me.

However, within a year of remarriage, I found that Asia was getting more and more wrong. After I take out 2,000 yuan for living expenses every month, I will give her an additional 300 yuan in pocket money, but Axia is still not satisfied, and asks me to give her some money every three to five. At the beginning, Axia kept going with me for more than 30,000 yuan on the grounds of repaying the debt. At that time, I didn’t care. After all, I still have a capital of 400,000 yuan, which is not bad.

However, after Asia left for 30,000 yuan, she became more and more crazy. There were many reasons for asking me for money. She will say that she wants to give her grandson a red envelope, and then she will say what happened to her family, how much it will cost, and so on. On the surface, it was said to be borrowing my money, but every time I borrowed it, Axia had no intention of paying it back.

Later, once I was sick and bedridden for more than half a month, Axia wanted to take away my salary card on the grounds that it was convenient for me to use money. She also did not return my salary card. I saw that Axia took good care of me, I was embarrassed to ask her to come back, and I believed that Axia would not do anything to me, and I didn’t need any money, so I kept the salary card in her over there.

However, I trusted A Xia very much, but A Xia used up all the money in her salary card without telling me. For the second year we lived together, my son needed some start-up money for starting a business and wanted me to sponsor about 100,000. Seeing that my son is so promising, as a father, I will naturally support it. At that time, I calculated that the salary card should have a balance of more than 100,000, so I wanted to use the money in the salary card first.

But when I went to Asia to ask for money, she kept blocking me, saying that I couldn’t give the money to my son, and that the money was my retirement money, so I would give it to my son. It will be a waste of time, and she also said a lot of bad things. But I trust my son very much. Even if my son is not filial and will not honor me in the future, I think I should support him. But Asia was always reluctant to hand over the salary card, and my son was eager to ask for it, so I had no choice but to secretly go to re-issue the salary card.

As a result, I went to the bank to check, and I was horrified. When I handed it over to Asia, there were about 150,000 in it, and every month it would be More than 5,000 people have come in, so no matter how we eat and drink these few months, there are not 150,000, but there are 120,000-30,000, but the balance is only more than 20,000. So, I asked Axia with the running water list. She didn’t say anything about life or death, and cried and begged me not to ask further questions. She thought I would soften her heart and let her go. But I didn’t. After all, this 100,000 yuan is not a small amount. If it disappears like this, my heart will hurt.

Axia couldn’t bear my stalemate and said that her eldest son lived in a new house, and the younger son did not have a new house. In order to treat the younger son equally, she bought a new house for the younger son, but her savings only Half of the down payment was enough, and there was a shortfall of 100,000 yuan. She wanted to borrow it from me, but she was afraid that I would not accept it, so she thought of stealing the money from my salary card and hiding it for a while.

And she is very shrewd, knowing that the cash withdrawal is more than 30,000 yuan, and my ID card is needed. She withdraws more than 20,000 yuan and more than 10,000 cash every day, and takes it away in half a month. I’m around 120,000.

At that time I heard that Axia took my money and gave her son a house, and I was furious. I have never been so forthright with my own son, why should I give her a son for my money! Axia was scolded badly by me, and I forced her to get the money back quickly. She said at first that she would let her youngest son collect the money to pay me back, but I did not wait for her son to pay back the money, but her two sons came. door-to-door warning.

Axia’s younger son took his elder brother and came to me, asking me to let Axia go. Whatever you say is family, don’t be too embarrassed. I don’t think it’s a family problem, because the 120,000 is money I’ve saved for many years, and I’m still reluctant to pay moreUnwittingly took it, so I kept asking them to pay back. As a result, Axia’s youngest son pointed at me and said, “My mother has already been a nanny for you. What’s wrong with using your money! Isn’t my mother worth the 120,000 yuan? Go and sue me if you can, look. You are not ashamed!”

That day, I was so angry with Axia’s son that I proposed to break up with Axia the next day. Raise her two sons. And also asked her to sign a 120,000 IOU to leave, but Axia just didn’t leave, and she didn’t want to sign the IOU, saying that she already loved me deep down and would repay it with the rest of her life, but I wouldn’t believe her nonsense. Once there will be another time, I am really afraid that my money will be swept away by her.

Finally, I called my son, and community staff, and the matter was resolved. However, in order to drive Axia away as soon as possible, I also made concessions. Originally, she took 120,000 yuan, so I discounted it and asked her to pay back 60,000 yuan. Axia is also very sensible, so she agreed.

After experiencing this failed remarriage life, I gradually understood that there are really many things to worry about and fear for elderly people like us who remarry, especially in the event of remarriage. When it comes to such a woman as Axia, what we fear most is to support the woman around us, and also to support her family. Therefore, it is difficult to remarry in old age. Rather than spending money to hire a nanny or living in a nursing home, it is not recommended to remarry and find a wife for the elderly!