The epidemic continues to spread, and under the huge number of confirmed cases, we seem to have changed a lot…
We used to wake up The first thing may be brushing your teeth, but now it becomes “Look how many new diagnoses are there today?”.
I can’t say I’m nervous, but I still feel a little nervous when I see the increasing numbers.
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I wanted to complain to my friends, but found that the group had already There are various chat records from unknown sources. While questioned the authenticity of these gossip, he couldn’t help but open it and read it word by word. In the end, he didn’t care whether it was true or false, and turned it around and told the people around him.
Image source: Network/Du Someone started buying freezers
Stock rice and noodles , hoarding fast food, hoarding vegetables… have become the “hot discussions” of everyone recently.
Daily chats have become “Have you stocked up yet?”
Although he said it was unnecessary, there was a faint voice in his heart asking himself: Do you want to stock up on something?
There are still people who brush “If What should I do if I get fired?”, I was afraid that I would lose my job tomorrow.
There are also some people, lying down, smashing, and making a sound of “destruction”…
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Recently, many people have been nervous and stressed for too long/ Network
Everyone lives on, but everything seems to have changed:
seems to become more sensitive and nervous as soon as there is trouble; seems to become more agitated, angry and vulnerable emotions are more likely to arise.
What the hell happened to us? Inevitably, many people have already fallen into anxiety.
In uncertain worry
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No one is immune to “anxiety”
In psychology, anxiety is an emotion of worry and fear about possible future risks . Anxiety often arises from a reaction to some vague, distant, unrecognizable danger.
The manifestations and feelings of anxiety are complex: anger, disappointment, hopelessness, powerlessness, depression and even confusion…
For most people, the trajectory of life was orderly:
I know that when I go downstairs at 7 o’clock, I can buy fresh vegetables and fruits
I know that even at 24 o’clock, there will be a late-night snack on call
I know that the meeting will be on the 10th I can pay the mortgage after I get paid
I know I am sick, I can go to the hospital and wait for the doctor to prescribe medicine to treat the disease
The pandemic has disrupted order, and anxiety has followed.
When we see the information of the epidemic control flying all over the sky, we are anxious – “When will it be us? Here”
When we saw that the community group began to discuss hoarding vegetables again, we were anxious – “Is there not enough vegetables I bought?”
When we see that the sick elderly cannot get help, we are anxious—“Who should the sick elderly finally turn to? Could this happen to people?”
The future becomes unknowable, uncontrollable and uncertain.
So some people started to involuntarily turn on their mobile phonesto read news and community news over and over again. Keep collecting all kinds of hoarding lists; some people start fidgeting and can’t even sleep.
The most basic needs, but also the biggest anxiety/screenshot
< p>This uncertainty destroys our sense of order and “predictability” and security in our lives.
School, work, and life are all undergoing unknown changes, and these are beyond our ability to change.
More and more things are losing our control over our lives. Uncertainty also makes us feel powerless to avoid risks and withstand negative outcomes, and this feeling of powerlessness can also increase anxiety.
We are facing an unprecedented challenge, both for individuals and for society as a whole, anxiety , Anxiety, depression All negative emotions are an instinctive reaction.
If you still I am constantly swiping my mobile phone and starting to participate in group buying and stocking up vegetables, so we want to tell you first, this is normal.
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positive Not necessary
Take care of yourself
When When we face a lot of stress and trauma, there are four common stress responses: fight, flight, freeze, and compromise.
Some people have started to stock up on vegetables, meat and daily necessities.
It has changed from “worrying about whether to stock up” to “starting to stock up”, and some have even started buying Fridge is out. We are using actions to ease our worries about the uncertain future. Buying excess daily necessities is a short-term strategy to gain a sense of security.
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Someone is expressing anger.
Behind anger is the desire to speak up to solve problems. In fact, they are already taking action to ease their anxiety.
Someone is researching group buying.
Look for nearby resources, contact the store, and call on the neighbors to fill in the form and place an order together…. In the uncertain logistics atmosphere, a relatively “sure” purchase method has been found – group purchase.
The most direct way to relieve anxiety is to do something. Fight or flight is a positive thing in the current environment.
Look for some certainty in all the uncertainty. It is important to take care of yourself and make yourself comfortable in the current situation.
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Image source: Internet/Maybe this is not a bad idea
However, we The people who should be most worried are actually those who have become “learned helplessness” in the face of enormous pressure.
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When a person experiences After a series of helpless setbacks, the state of helplessness and depression will appear, and giving up and sinking have become the main colors.
Can’t help but wonder: “What’s the use of trying?” These people attribute uncontrollable negative events to their own abilities , So no longer struggle, choose to give up yourself, choose to compromise.
And all of this is the root cause of many secondary problems (whether psychological or behavioral).
If everyone ends up in such a state of helplessness and despair, then this will be The last thing we want to see.
Whatever state you are in, we want to say something ——In the current environment, you are fine, and it is normal to have negative emotions. You don’t need to force yourself to be positive and energetic.
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We have all started planting pea shoots/Photo courtesy of colleagues
Stock your favorite snacks and drinks; spend some time every day growing vegetables and flowers; organizers to start group buying ; earnestly learn to cook a dish; call parents every day; even just, look at the sunset today…
In the past, our hearts were stable, maybe From our belief that we can plan and prepare for the next 10 years.
For the uncontrollable external problems, maybe we can try to take our eyes back and look at the present and the people around us .
Do what we can.
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Afterword
I am working on this manuscript When we talked with several counselors about how to help everyone regulate their emotions, the teachers gave us the same voice: talking about being positive is a luxury, and anxiety and anxiety are inevitable. This time, we may not Let’s talk about how to do it, but first see everyone’s true emotions.
One of the consultants Z is in Shanghai, She said, “Who would have thought that March 12 would be the last time to go out. I can clearly feel my emotional ups and downs, and the psychologist can’t escape anxiety.”
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Schedule more simple, effortless things to fill the time, it will be much better, try in a lot of uncertainty into a new order of life.
The client said to her that day that weekly consultations are the most controllable thing right now. People feel at ease, and she feels that it would be good if she could give some people a sense of peace and certainty at these uncertain times. They both found comfort in each other.
This article cooperates with experts
Li Songwei
PhD in Clinical Psychology
Registered Psychologist
This article reviewer
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