Do you know “Pick Boys“?
This is a popular post on mother and baby forums.
(Source: a parenting community)
refers to the mother who gave birth to a son sharing her experience with netizens, and netizens reply to the thread, hoping that she can receive a good pregnancy and give birth to a boy.
There is no doubt that the number of messages is almost thousands or even tens of thousands, which shows the enthusiasm of mothers for their sons.
(Source: a parenting community)
In another community, the notes related to “Pick Up Boys” are also easy to read.
(Source: Little X Book)
On the other hand, everyone’s enthusiasm for having a girl is not so high.
(Source: Little X Book)
Instead of video, “Pick Up Boys” is also quite popular.
Source: Douyin
Some people like boys and some like girls, that’s normal.
But when the gap between the two is too large, it means that “preference of sons to daughters” is no longer the preference of one or two families.
Thousands of families have strong attachments and anxiety of “must have grandchildren”, “pass the incense” and “mother is precious with children”.
(Source: Today’s Talk/Ethical Watch)
(Source: Today’s Talk/Ethical Watch)
In 2012, Ms. Ren from Zhumadian, Henan was pregnant for ten months and finally gave birth to a “son”.
But she found that her “son” had both male and female characteristics. The family was anxious, so she took the “son” to the hospital for examination.
A doctor diagnosed that the child, although it looks like a boy, has a female chromosome, a typical developmental abnormality.
(Source: Focus Interview)< /i>
It turned out that when Ms. Ren was 5 months pregnant, she ate the “rebirth pill” bought by her mother-in-law.
This is a drug that claims to switch the sex of a fetus, and most parents buy it for “female-to-male”.
Those who have studied biology know that the man’s sperm carries the Y sex chromosome, and if fertilization is successful, it will develop into a boy, and if it carries an X sex chromosome, it will develop into a girl after successful fertilization.
That is, the sex of the fetusis determined at the moment of fertilization and is largely determined by the man.
How about “female-to-male” in “female-to-male”?
Actually, this is an illusion brought about by the methyl testosterone in the “birth pill”.
Methyl testosterone is an androgen, can promote the development of genitals towards male sexual organs, counteract the effect of estrogen, inhibit the function of female ovarian pituitary and sexual organ development [1].
When pregnant women take it, it will cause abnormal development of the reproductive system of the female fetus.If it is taken earlier, the reproductive system of the fetus has just begun to develop, which may cause [2, 3,4]:
The labia majora are fully or partially fused, enlarging like a male testis (but without it);
urethra and vaginal opening are combined into one;
The clitoris enlarges and moves upwards to varying degrees, which can be enlarged into male external genitalia;
urogenital nodules and urethral folds develop into the penis;
Small or no uterus.
Because the chromosomes are female, these girls may still develop through puberty.
At this point, “his” breasts will bulge, and because of fusion of the vagina and external urethra, “may even have menstruation from the urethra”.
If the fetus is a boy, high levels of androgens can also lead to miscarriage, rapid early childhood growth and early bone age [4].
The realgar found in some “return pills” can also cause embryonic development to stop, fewer or more fingers/toes, and abnormal ear development.
(Source: Army Otolaryngology Center, Navy General Hospital)
The congenital deformity catalyzed by man makes one realize that he is a “monster”, and putting it on any person is a painful torture, but there are still countless people who want to give birth to boys , while forcibly manipulating a child’s body.
(Source: a parenting community)
In February 2019, at Shenzhen Luohu Port, a 12-year-old girl was stopped by customs because her schoolbag was “almost open”.
When her bag was opened, everyone was stunned to find full bag of pregnant women’s blood test tubes, up to 142 tubes. !
(Source: Beijing News)
The pregnant woman’s blood is labeled with her name, and attached with the “Maternal Blood Y Chromosome Gene Test Application Form”, which includes the fetal bud length, gestational weeks, date of blood collection, number of gestational fetuses , these are signs that someone is surreptitiously performing fetal sex determination.
Even in recent years, such cases are still emerging, and once parents find out that it is a female fetus, they may abort it.
Countless girls have lost their lives to their own hands.
(Source: Xiao Neiwang, “Today’s Talk”, “Beijing News”)
(Source: Xiao Neiwang, “Today’s Statement”, “Beijing News”)
This long-standing gender preference has resulted in a serious imbalance between males and females in China.
According to the “China Children’s Development Outline”, in 2017, the sex ratio of the birth population in my country was 111.9 (100 women) [5].
This means that for every 100 boys, 90 girls are born.
The United Nations believes that the normal range should be 103~107 (100 for women)[6].
Of course there may be baby girls who are not registered at birth, but as the children go to school and work, these hidden children will gradually appear in the statistics, so the census data may be more accurate combine.
And data from the 6th 2010 Census showed:
The overall average sex ratio for the post-90s was 110.76, or 110 boys:100 girls;
More serious is the “post-00s”, with a sex ratio as high as 118.91, that is, 119 boys: 100 girls[ 7,8].
Data from the China Statistical Yearbook (2020) also shows that my country’s post-“00” gender imbalance is the most serious:
As of 2019, the most gender imbalanced ages in my country were 0-14 years old, 15-19 years old, and the sex ratios were 119.10 and 119.10, respectively. 118.39[9,10].
Almost100 girls for 120 boys.
Someone explained that many more boys were born than girls, not because sons were preferred over girls, but because people had a daughter and felt they could still have a baby, and a boy should be considered for him If you buy a house and get married, you won’t dare to give birth.
In fact, in terms of probability, this will not affect the sex ratio at birth:
Most likely, they are “disappeared”.
But these girls who were born must be very happy?
It’s hard!
It can be said that from childhood to adulthood, they are not really “family members”.
After birth, they were given names full of expectations: “Zhao Di”, “Pan Di” and “Ying Di”.
(Source: Douyin)
But it is not they who are expected, but the younger brother.
(Source: “Niangdao”)
During childhood, family members despised and neglected them intentionally or unintentionally, which made them understand their status. Girls who should have been carefree since childhood knew how to watch words, do housework, and take care of family members.
(Source: Douyin)
Growing up, their needs and hardships are often ignored by their families because they will always be “splashed water.”
(Source: “It’s All Good”)
But when they grow up, they still have to follow social concepts and become “intimate little padded jackets”.
(Source: Douyin)
(Source: Douyin)
And no matter how sensible and hard-working, girls are always the back of their hands.
(Source: China News Weekly, Douban)
(Source: China News Weekly, Douban)
Being trapped in a “patriarchal” even until death.
(Source: Sannong Network)
Fang Mouyang, who was beaten to death by her husband’s family due to infertility, was married to a yin before cremation.
(Source: Oriental Today)
The patriarchal culture, instilled from generation to generation, makespeople accustomed to all kinds of oppression of women.
So many people don’t realize that they are doing it wrong.
Even an oppressed woman, growing up in such a culture and living in such a marriage, will be kidnapped by her family and become a pregnant woman who takes the risk of taking the “rebirth pill” again , A mother who fought her life to give birth to a son, a mother-in-law who believes that her grandson’s life is far more important than her daughter-in-law, and a mother who prefers her son.
While it is difficult for us to change the minds of previous generations, we can start with ourselves and take a step towards change.
I hope that every favored younger brother can realize that his sister, like himself, deserves to be loved and has the right to study and free marriage;
Image source: Station Cool Hero
I hope that every girl who “disappoints her family” will know that she, like her brother, is smart, beautiful, free, and can be excellent, without having to go through “must have a son” again;
I hope every father will find that boys and girls are as good as girls are excellent education, loving companionship, and making their children capitalized;
I hope every mother can be brave to be herself, you are not a fertility machine that will be passed down from generation to generation.
I hope this folly ends in your hands and mine.
Image source: Zhanku Hailuo
Reviewer: Wang Qi| Chief Physician of Obstetrics, Beijing Obstetrics and Gynecology Hospital Affiliated to Capital Medical University
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