Do you think you will be free after giving birth? What kinds of pain are known only after giving birth?
Let’s hear the story of @Yan Xishe, the mother of Lilac Mother Planet.
Do you think giving birth is the most painful thing? Do you think the pain is over after giving birth?
That’s what I thought before I had a baby, but after I had my baby, I realized how naive I was.
The pain during childbirth is only temporary. After giving birth, the pain of various sequelae is called grinding, and it will grind you for half a month, or even longer.
Let’s talk about my various pains, some pains can be prevented in advance, for your reference.
Side cut
I think this is the most painful of all pains. It takes the longest time to recover. It has been 19 days until today. I can still feel the pain, but compared to the previous much better.
During a few days in the hospital, the nurses would regularly disinfect the wound, apply cold compresses, and use infrared sterilization to sterilize the wound. Although it was painful, it was bearable.
However, the nurse who took care of me during this period washed my vulva with hot water once. After that, I was in great pain. It was the kind of faint swelling pain that was unbearable. The pain caused me to cry. A handful of snot.
Then I came to the conclusion that I should not wash with hot water, otherwise it would be more painful.
In the previous week, I used warm water to wash my perineum when I went to the small toilet, and sprayed after each cleaning. Usually walking and sitting on a stool are very inconvenient, especially breastfeeding, it is really painful.
It is said that a perineal massage can be done before childbirth to increase the elasticity of the perineum, so that during childbirth, the probability of side cutting and tearing can be reduced.
Hemorrhoids hurt
I have always had a good bowel habit. I don’t know why I have hemorrhoids, and they are external hemorrhoids, which are lumps of flesh that fall out of the anus.
Doctors say this is normal and pregnant women are prone to hemorrhoids.
Before giving birth, this hemorrhoid did not affect me. After giving birth, my hemorrhoids were inflamed, red and swollen, and the burning pain was no less than the pain of lateral incision.
For a week in a row, my teammates gave me anal plugs and anti-inflammatory drugs every day.
This side incision pain + hemorrhoid pain is just terrible. Every time I go to the big toilet, it is like a punishment. After the end, I have to clean the vulva and anus. After the whole process, I was sweating all over.
It is even more inconvenient to sit down. When I was in the hospital, I had to eat and drink on the bed. When I sat up from the bed, I was on my side and supported with my hands. The whole meal process was extremely painful.
After coming back, they all eat and breastfeed while standing, and lie down for the rest of the time.
Painful contractions
Painful uterine contractions will last for 1-2 weeks after giving birth. I used to have dysmenorrhea. The pain of uterine contractions is worse than that of dysmenorrhea. Moreover, breastfeeding will help the uterus recover, and it will also cause painful uterine contractions. .
Especially in the previous week, the pain sometimes made people nauseous and vomited, and the feeling of arrows stabbing in the abdomen.
Nipple pain
The process of breastfeeding when a baby is just born is a process of learning and adaptation for both the baby and the mother.
In the beginning, my baby may not be very skilled at breastfeeding. Due to my physical discomfort, my baby always latched incorrectly, which caused nipple microdermabrasion to ooze blood and pain.
I prepared nipple cream when I was admitted to the hospital, and even if I applied it, it didn’t work very well. I even bought a nipple shield and found that it doesn’t work either, the baby sucks a lot and the nipple is squeezed in the nipple shield, which makes it even more painful.
Then I just pump the milk out, feed it to the baby, wait for the nipple to recover a bit, and then breastfeed.
Back pain
The problem of low back pain has always been there, but it has become more serious after childbirth, especially in places where there is no pain. Although there is a theory that low back pain has little to do with painless, I don’t know if it is my psychological effect.
Side cutting pain, hemorrhoid pain, uterine contraction pain, nipple pain, back pain, all kinds of pain, tossing me for half a month, almost 20 days till today, the pain is almost relieved 80%, but still very weak.
My experience
After this birth, I really admire those people who have given birth to a second child and a third child. They are heroes and worthy of admiration. At the same time, I also understand better that my mother and mother-in-law are more gentle and understanding in their daily life, which is really too difficult.
Writing these words is not to create anxiety for expectant mothers and mothers, but to share my true feelings. The pain is really painful, but looking at the baby in my arms, I don’t regret it. At the same time, postpartum pain is temporary. Mothers should believe that they will recover. I think that after a full month, the pain should be reduced by 100%.
Mothers are great, it’s not just empty words. I think every woman who is a mother is an unforgettable practitioner of this sentence.