Some time ago, a number of TV stations launched a special interview on “Are you happy”, but from the overall situation, the effect was not as good as expected. The main reason is that many interviewed people could not answer the question, what is happiness? What is the standard of happiness? Wait, these ambiguous questions, everyone’s understanding of happiness, the standard of happiness, the control of happiness, etc. are different.
Actually, the so-called happiness has different experiences, different understandings and different requirements. For example, the ancient emperor shared the bed with a beautiful concubine every night, hugged a young and beautiful angel, and slept on an expensive dragon bed, he might not feel happy. An old farmer, sleeping on a kang with his wife, may be very satisfied and happy. Happiness is someone remembered today, warmth is someone remembered today.
First, “happiness” is when someone “remembers” today
Think about it, everyone, during the day Who will think of you the most? I don’t think the answer is too complicated. The person who will think of you most in a day is your father, mother, then your son, daughter, or your spouse.
If these people keep thinking of you, it shows a very real problem, that is, you have a very perfect home, with father, mother, son, daughter, And a spouse, isn’t this the highest state of “happiness”? What more do you want?
Of course you would say that I want a career, a status, and a lot of money, which is all right. In fact, if you really have a successful career, a distinguished social status, and a high economic income, your social influence must be very high. Then, will many people think of you from time to time? Isn’t that “happiness”?
Second, “warm” means that someone is “remembering” today
The so-called “remembering” is worrying about others, always afraid that he will come out This thing, that thing happens, the best thing is that nothing happens, everything is fine. That is to say, as long as someone cares about you, you should feel very warm in your heart.
I remember when my aunt came to my house when I was a child, the first thing she did when she saw me was to hug me and ask: “Did you miss me?” “Auntie, I miss you so much, I miss you all day.” At this time, my aunt felt very satisfied, and immediately kissed me twice and took out the gift she brought me. I was full of joy, and she also warmed my heart.
That is to say, as long as someone says they miss you all day, you will definitely feel warm in your heart. If you are alone, without anyone’s care and thoughts, just imagine how lonely and desolate it is!