A friend asked Dr. Wang publicly: Because of mild anxiety, my parents wanted to give up on me from the previous concern. why is that? It’s so uncomfortable right now, I want to cry!
From the beginning of the headache for two years, I can still go to school and work during the summer vacation. After that, I went to check the pain. The doctor said it was mild anxiety. The doctor prescribed medicine for me to take. After taking the medicine, I couldn’t go to school or go to work. It’s still the same after I stop taking the medicine. I can only stay at home every day. After that, everything got worse, and the relationship at home began to deteriorate. I am in extreme pain now, and I don’t know what to do or how to change.
It may have been sad and unfortunate at first, but now I am a little angry. I am Dr. Wang, besides being an AIDS prevention and treatment doctor, I am also a psychologist.
Especially understand your inner pain, sadness and helplessness. I am sick and sad, which leads to family conflicts, so that the family relationship is no longer harmonious, and I will feel very self-blame in my heart. If you are not understood or supported by your parents now, you will be very helpless and disappointed. But it doesn’t matter, there will be answers if there are questions. We will talk about this part later.
From another perspective, the current state of the parents is understandable, after all, they have no background in psychology. At the beginning, parents saw your uncomfortable state and hoped that the doctor could help you solve the problem. They thought that the illness could be solved by medicine, and medicine to cure the disease is the common people’s understanding of common diseases. But some problems, such as psychological problems, cannot be alleviated simply with drugs.
We do not deny the role of drugs in relieving anxiety symptoms, but the root of psychological problems lies in cognition. If cognition is not adjusted, the source of anxiety may always exist. This is like the joke, the surgeon only needs to pull out the arrow that is exposed outside, and what is buried in the skin is not under my control, and what is buried in the skin is fatal.
But what my parents see is, I have already seen a doctor for you, and I have prescribed medicine for you, why are you still not getting better. The trivialities you worry about are simply futile and unfounded. Even wondering if you don’t want to get out of the house, so many dangers and symptoms that don’t exist are conceived. So they will be concerned from the beginning to complaining now.
In fact, I can’t blame my parents, because this is the part of the whole nation that needs to be improved, that is, mental health literacy. People’s cognition of psychological problems may also come from the simple and intuitive interpretation of mental disorders. In fact, the two are not the same concept.
Psychological factors account for 70% of all factors affecting health, which is a recognized concept at home and abroad. And in fact, people may have psychological problems in their lives, which is very normal and very common. Because it doesn’t equate to a mental problem, it’s two completely different concepts.
If we make a big division of human psychology, it can be divided into normal psychology and abnormal psychology.
The abnormal psychological part is the mental problem we often talk about. Of course, it is not limited to mental disorders, but also includes cognitive disorders, emotional disorders, volitional behavior disorders, etc., and mental disorders can be subdivided into mental disorders. Schizophrenia, mood disorders, personality disorders, stress-related disorders, etc.
The normal psychological part can be divided into normal and healthy and normal but unhealthy. The psychological problems we often talk about are the normal but unhealthy part. I often describe it as a state of having a cold in the mind. Because it is very common for people to catch colds in the body, it is not uncommon for people to catch colds in the mind.
But I think your parents don’t have that much background knowledge, and it’s normal that they don’t understand your status.
Then let’s talk about what we should do. Dr. Wang provides some directions, but the one who really wants to practice is you. On the road of change, no one will act for you unless you have the will and ability to change yourself.
First of all, it is necessary for the neurology department to rule out whether you have physical lesions. This is the major premise of all subsequent actions. Whether the headache is caused by neurological lesions needs to be determined first.
If a medical condition is ruled out, then a psychiatrist will need to assess whether your current state requires medication to control anxiety symptoms. I have always emphasized that drugs make sense for controlling more severe emotional states, including anxiety and depression. And once you take the medicine, you should gradually reduce the dose and stop the medicine under the guidance of the doctor, do not stop the medicine by yourself, otherwise you will have withdrawal symptoms and will be more uncomfortable. There are side effects such as dizziness when you start taking the medicine, but it may be relieved gradually. Also, don’t think that once you take the medicine, you can’t stop. As the symptoms gradually ease and the mentality is slowly adjusted, the drug can be gradually reduced until the drug is stopped.
At the same time, the most important part of solving the problem at the source is the adjustment and change of cognition. The background information you provided in this part is not much, but I think friends with psychological problems will have some common problems, similar to the fear of AI. For example, in terms of personality characteristics, they are strict with themselves, easy to pursue perfection, and easy to think about Absolute demands on yourself or things are easy to think in a bad direction, etc. This part needs to be adjusted through professional psychological intervention, if the current conditions do not allow, you can consider reading some psychology books, and then gradually adjust.
Anxious people often worry about things that didn’t happen, and they seem to be constantly thinking about bad outcomes and panicking. Just think, how many of those bad outcomes we imagined actually happened? If most of them do not happen, it means that our ideas may not be in line with reality. Next time we encounter similar problems, we must be aware of and remind ourselves how to conceive is more reasonable, and slowly we will adjust to a more reasonable perspective go.
In addition, in my previous article on fear of AIDS, I mentioned some universal methods, such as relaxing the requirements of myself, thinking in a direction close to the facts, and insisting on exercising. Wait. Because exercising can not only strengthen the body, but also effectively relieve emotions, make a specific and feasible exercise plan and strictly implement it. (The title of the article is: Four methods for treating AIDS fear, you can refer to)
If possible, calmly communicate with your parents to show that you are also suffering in your heart, that your parents do not understand you and make you feel more uncomfortable, and strive for your parents’ understanding and support. But if your parents don’t understand, don’t be too disappointed. The reason I explained is very clear. They don’t have a background in psychology. According to their understanding, you are futile. And the hardest thing in the world is to change others, the only thing we can control is ourselves. Seeing the facts clearly, we will not be too sad.
Come on, I wish you get out of the shadows and return to normal life as soon as possible!
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