(July 2019, Juddy celebrated her 33rd birthday while on a business trip in Vietnam .)
2019 was the toughest year of her life for Juddy, when she was 33 when she was diagnosed with breast cancer.
She’s the kind of hardworking and brilliant girl who is often envied. He studied at Peking University for his undergraduate degree and graduated from the University of Pennsylvania with a master’s degree. After returning to China and working hard in the workplace, he became the co-founder and COO of a brand integrated marketing company.
She frequently travels between Beijing and Shanghai, and is busy with company meetings and other affairs every day; she has a clear plan for her future life, however, her illness comes suddenly…
The data of the 2019 National Cancer Report shows that there are about 304,000 new cases of female breast cancer in the country each year, ranking first in the incidence of female malignant tumors, and the incidence of There is a significant younger trend.
On September 17, 2019, Judidi walked into the breast clinic of Peking Union Medical College Hospital for the first time.
A month ago, she felt a small lump on her chest that tingled a little from time to time. She vaguely felt that something was not right. Is it mastitis or breast nodules?
(Judidy before her illness.)
While waiting at the hospital, Juddy stumbled out of the consultation room when she saw someone covering her mouth and crying with red eyes. Unexpectedly, a few minutes later, the doctor gave her a mammography examination list, and Judidi felt a “squeak” in her heart. She knew it was a test for suspected breast cancer patients.
Check back, the doctor left a few short words:
“Almost diagnosed.”
“Diagnosed what?”
“Cancer.”
Judidi’s brain went blank.
After a few seconds, reason quickly returned. Judidi immediately told the doctor that he had purchased commercial medical insurance and wanted to seek treatment as soon as possible. Before she walked out of the consulting room, her conversation with the doctor did not exceed fifteen minutes.
On the taxi home, Juddy began to slowly digest the sudden change. She began to consult with friends in the medical circle and the family members of patients around her for related matters, informing the company partners that she would “suspend work to solve the trouble”, and at the same time asked the assistant to cancel all business trips for the next few days. She had planned to go to Shanghai for a business trip that evening.
Tuesday afternoon, with traffic jammed on the edge of the 3rd Ring Road, Juddy felt that the outside world was finally slowing down…
Judy didn’t tell her parents about her condition immediately, and she didn’t know how to speak.
That night, it was the husband who struggled to explain the situation to her parents. The father then called back and comforted her for a while. No one was too emotional on the phone.
Juddy left home at the age of 12, lived in school to study, lived independently, rarely acted like a spoiled child with her parents, and didn’t cry much. Many things were decided by herself.
Her plan to get the fastest treatment from the doctor worked.
The next morning, Juddy checked into the cancer ward with the same luggage as her usual business trip.
The moment she changed into the hospital gown, she completely accepted the fact that she was “sick”.
(fashion look in hospital gown.)
Surgery immediately on the third day.
This is more like a judgment of fate. There are too many uncertainties, and the results must be obtained through surgical inspection: she is still holding on to luck, will there be any hope of reversal? Do sentinel lymph nodes metastasize? If it is transferred, do I need to do a total resection…
The surgery went well and the result: the cancer cells did not spread and metastasize. Juddy also had breast-conserving surgery in one go.
When she learned the results, she finallyCrying loudly without hesitation. She said it was a “reassuring” cry.
Juddi found out later that her parents who didn’t make it to Beijing in time were also crying at home.
After surgery, with bandages on her body, Juddy had to stay in bed for two weeks. For her, this was one of the most painful parts of the entire cancer journey.
She has always been a person with strong action, from school to work, and along the way, she has never pressed the pause button in her life. After starting a business, he plunged into work and ran all the way.
(Judidi manages a team of about 40 people in the company founded by her partner .)
The sudden “brake” made her uncomfortable, and anxiety followed.
According to a survey, 97.5% of breast cancer surgery patients are worried. Juddy knows it.
Accepting sickness doesn’t mean accepting everything. Before the specific pathological results come out, there are many uncertainties, and different results correspond to completely different plans and changes in the future, which makes it difficult for people to sort out.
At the end of October, Juddy noticed some noticeable changes in her body.
She often wakes up in the middle of the night and can’t sleep, her whole body feels inexplicably weak; she tries to grab something, but she feels “powerless”; she wants to cry, but she doesn’t feel sad.
(The medicine Judidy needs to take every morning.)
Unpredictable emotional release and uncontrollable breathing crises often accompany. Once, she felt a strong sense of near-death, so her mother called an ambulance, but in the end she followed the nurse out. She even bought an oxygen machine to keep at home, even though her symptoms were not caused by hypoxia.
It wasn’t until she saw the Clinical Psychology unit that Juddy knew she was in a state of intense anxiety. After the combination of drug treatment, it gradually improved.
Later, in her own sharing, Juddy often emphasized that psychotherapy needs to be used as an aid in the recovery process of cancer patients.
(Judy Dee photographed the anti-cancer manifesto erected in the cancer hospital.)
The pathological results revealed that Juddy had early triple positive breast cancer. This means that she needs to be treated in multiple ways at different stages.
After anxiety, Judidi, who refused to admit defeat, named her anti-cancer process: Breast Cancer Woman Warrior. Her husband and parents are her closest comrades-in-arms.
After chemotherapy, the body needs a lot of nutrients and energy to maintain white blood cell levels. She started gaining weight at a steady pace each week. Drugs to control estrogen also caused her to develop a lot of acne.
In December, in Beijing’s harsh winter, the branches were bald by the wind, and Juddy’s hair began to fall out. After 15 days of chemotherapy, when I woke up, my lost hair was entangled with the remaining hair, and I couldn’t pull it off.
(Judidy photographed herself losing her hair during chemotherapy and shaving her head.)
Shaving the head was done by my husband.
In order to take care of her emotions, her husband joked: “Tony Zhang’s skills are good?“
Colleagues and friends also ridiculed her as “Master Teacher”.
Those tentative jokes are actually full of warmth.
Given the “priorities,” Juddy accepts these facts with optimism. “If you lose your hair, you can grow back, and if you’re fat, you can buy new clothes. I’m more worried about the dangers of complications during chemotherapy.”
(Judidi prepared a wig for herself, and after bringing it to the office, colleagues often try it on.)
The cancer-fighting process activates another life plan: children.
Judidi married her husband in 2011. The two were busy with their careers, and raising the next generation was not yet on their agenda, but the intrusion of cancer cells changed their minds.
“Illness is a great opportunity to test relationships among family members.”
In her opinion, cancer did not alienate her relationship with her husband. On the contrary, they seemed to be teaming up to fight monsters and fight the disease, and thus became closer.
(Mr. prepares dinner in the evening and waits for Juddy to come home, there are pictures of the two of them hanging on the wall Wedding photo, the card on the table reads: “Limited paper, I wish infinite”.)
At the end of 2019, before receiving chemotherapy and long-term endocrine drug treatment, Mr. Judy and Mr. Juddi did enough research and went abroad to freeze healthy embryos.
This half year is also the longest time she has spent with her mother since she grew up and left home. When you go to the hospital, you are like a comrade-in-arms, when you go to the hospital, you are like a best friend, when you study cooking, you are like a teacher and apprentice…
“I no longer just leave her with a fading back, I can stand behind her from time to time and capture some fascinating moments that are not defeated by life.”< /strong>
(During the treatment, Judidi’s mother came to Beijing to take care of her, and she secretly photographed her mother’s back .)
The pandemic has caused fewer cancer patients to go out when they should. It is also because of the epidemic that Juddy’s chemotherapy process was interrupted. Transfer to hospital, consultation, stop chemotherapy, switch to radiotherapy and dual-target drug therapy.
(Judy is getting dressed before going out.)
During this period, many friends learned that she was sick one after another, and they sent a large amount of content through the Internet: “I am still very moved, whether it is confession or concern.” Judidi said, “In the past, when work was busy, people didn’t communicate so much.”
She began to consciously record her own life, writing a circle of friends, running a public account, and posting on Weibo. In addition to sharing her own experience, she also communicated with patients to help them solve some doubts.
(Judidy took medicine at home, and after her condition stabilized, she raised many green leafy plants at home .)
After May Day this year, Judidy is back at work. Aside from wearing a hat and swallowing a handful of gigantic pills every morning, she hardly looks like a sick person.
On October 13th, from 3:30 p.m. to 6:50 p.m., Juddy repeatedly changed 5 spaces in the office area and held 6 online and offline meetings in a row.
(Juddy poses with her colleagues in a wig on her first day back at work.)
As a company COO, busyness is the norm.
But priorities in life have changed: eat well, set aside time each day to exercise, and sleep at a set time each day.
She now has monthly targeted therapy and daily endocrine-suppressing medications. If all goes well, by the beginning of next year, she will be able to end her treatment.
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(Before her illness, Juddy was not a girl who likes sports. Now, she insists on riding a spinning bike for 1 hour a day.)
If everyone starts to subtract from their lives because of some encounters, then this illness has made Juddy’s life “zero”.
“Stop the original rhythm and give yourself the opportunity to re-examine the people and things around you, which ones are not important and which ones can be put down.” I used to be too busy and spent too much energy taking care of the outside world. “In addition to taking care of my body during this time, I am also taking care of my mind.”
While doing these subtractions, Judidy felt that her heart became lighter and stronger.
She said: “Everyone has the hardest year in their life, but when you get through it, life becomes beautiful and vast.”
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