The happiest couple, in their later years, will face a life-and-death separation, which we cannot escape. After being single in their later years, many elderly people will choose to remarry and find a new wife to accompany them. Because of the long old age, it is very difficult for a person to endure. Only when there are people around you will this life be meaningful and life will be enjoyable.
However, in real life, some people feel that the elderly who have entered their old age, after losing their wife, do not need to remarry to find a wife. After all, in old age, The rest of his life is not long, remarrying and looking for a wife is nothing more than adding trouble to oneself. And most of the elderly who remarry in their later years will be unhappy.
Some people say that remarriage is good, and some people say that remarriage is not good. So after widowed in old age, should the old man find a wife to remarry? Uncle Luo, a 71-year-old retiree, expressed his views, which made people feel very smart and wise!
Narrator: Uncle Luo, 71 years old
I am 71 years old and have been retired from work for 11 years. Now I receive more than 5,000 pensions every month, and I have a car and a house. But regardless of my financial situation, I wasn’t happy at all in the first few years of my retirement.
At that time, when I was still at work, I described a lot of beautiful retirement life. Traveling and having fun with my wife everywhere, chic and free. But I never expected that half a year before my retirement, my wife suddenly left me because of illness.
At that time, my life, apart from sadness, was nothing but loneliness. Even though it didn’t take long for me to retire, I couldn’t be happier. Because for the 35 years I spent with my wife, she took care of all my life. Without her, my life would be messed up, and I felt like I was lost, and I didn’t know how to spend it every day.
Someone persuaded me to live with my son, saying that I would be happier when I was with my relatives. I understand the truth, but I didn’t go to my son’s house. It’s not that my son is not filial to me, nor that he has no prospects. It’s just that my son lives in a big city, and I don’t adapt to the environment there.
When I just retired, my son and daughter-in-law also said that they were worried that I would be at home alone and would take me to retire. It always bothers them, whether it is their daily routine or living habits, or even common sense and concepts of life! In the end, I went back to my own home to live alone.
Afterwards, when my son and daughter-in-law saw that I was alone, they persuaded me to remarry and find a wife, saying that it is very popular for the elderly to remarry, and they would also support me. Generally, the elderly remarry in their later years, and they will be very happy if they can get the support of their children. But I didn’t. Although my son and daughter-in-law are filial, they are all for my good, and I am very pleased, but I think it is not very realistic for an old man of my age to remarry.
After all, I have already given my half-life love to my wife, it is really hard to fall in love with other people, and I think two single elderly people with mature family life, It is difficult to live together again. Even if we love each other very much, past experiences and existing families can make our lives very uncomfortable.
Like a few old colleagues around me, who remarried and found a wife after being single in their later years, but now they are either breaking up their partners, or they are noisy, separate and combined, Really tormenting. A colleague also went to court with his wife, turning his lover into an enemy. The beautiful old age was also messed up, and his life was not going well. So, I think people don’t need to torture themselves anymore when they are old.
Although it is a bit lonely and lonely living alone, it is all a matter of personal mentality. If a person has an optimistic attitude, he will live well in any kind of life. Since I lived alone, I have been adjusting my mentality. When I feel lonely at home, I will find something to do. I will practice drawing, writing, and raising flowers and plants at home.
When I get bored, I will go outside to find good friends for entertainment, play ball, sing, and travel together. Retired old people, as long as they are willing to discover the beauty of life, they will not feel sad in their old age. For example, when I play with a group of old friends every day, I feel that time passes too quickly.
Speaking of this, some people may say that I have just retired and I am in good health. Living alone is hard work. Therefore, some people feel that it is better to remarry and find a wife in their later years. Even if the relationship is not very good, it is worthwhile to make noises every day, but at least there is a partner around.
And I still want to say that remarriage is not for everyone. Now that I am in my 70s, I also have some minor health problems, and I need someone to take care of me from time to time, but I still have not chosen the path of remarriage. Instead, I found an old neighbor in the same community to live with.
A 68-year-old Jane lives downstairs. She is also an elderly person who lives alone. After my wife left, I got very close to her, and there were many rumors about our relationship. But Jane and I are innocent, and we have no idea of remarrying each other. We live as brothers and sisters and help each other out. I used to be strong and healthy, so I often helped Jane do some hard work, while Jane Well, she will help me with cooking, or she will cook an extra portion of food for me to eat, and she will also kindly help me with cleaning.
So, Jane and I often interacted like this, and we agreed to live together, but it was just a friend-like partnership, unlike other elderly people who wanted to get what they needed from each other. Partner to engage in fake husband and wife relationship. And this is how we team up. During the day, we buy food and cook with AA. Today I go to her house, and tomorrow he comes to my house. Eat and drink enough, or play mahjong together, or go to sing and dance, or go back to each other’s house, so we can’t live together at night, and there’s no need to live together, after all, she and I It is the distance between going up and down the stairs, and you can call the other party by stomping your feet.
Because there are no emotional entanglements and no interests, so Jane and I live happily together, and the relationship between our two children is also very good, they also Very supportive of our partnership. Every time during the festival, the children of both parties will gather together for dinner and go on a self-driving tour together. Our two families get along like a family, there is no contradiction, and it is full of warmth.
Although we live together like this, we have been rumored by many people, saying what is an improper relationship, what is sweet and sour, etc., but we never take it to heart, because we feel that, Jealous people are boring people who talk about others like this. In the world, as long as men and women walk together, there are tricks. As a human being, you must keep your eyes open and your mind straight, so that you can see the beauty of many things.
A-Jen and I have been working as a mutual-aid partner for more than 7 years. Although we both have gray hair, bent over, and our bodies are not as good as each other, we Will continue to maintain such a relationship, each other is each other’s companions, but not each other’s lovers.
A-Jen and I have also made an agreement that if both parties are unable to take care of themselves gradually, then no one should bother their children. The two of them will go to the nursing home for the elderly together, and they will continue to work in the nursing home. The best “brothers and sisters”, together for the elderly. Many people may not believe that there is such a friendship between the opposite sex, but I think these are all dirty thoughts, blinding their hearts. In fact, an old man like me, in his old age, really doesn’t think too much about love and love, but only thinks about how to live comfortably and comfortably.
Therefore, regarding the issue of remarriage in old age, I don’t think it is necessary to remarry after being single or widowed in old age. It is also good to find a close friend like me and live together. It can be of the opposite sex, or it can be between good brothers, as long as you feel that the two people have compatible personalities, have an optimistic attitude, and have children who are supportive, that’s fine!
Concluding remarks:
Although it is very popular and normal for the elderly to remarry at the moment, remarriage is still There will be a lot of unpredictable things happening. After all, becoming a second-married couple will have different degrees of estrangement and contradictions in terms of emotional integration and exchanges of interests. No matter how much you love each other, it’s hard to avoid it.
So for Uncle Luo and Jane, I think it’s a good way to work together. It’s very suitable for single elderly people to choose. Only brother and sister love, getting along together will be very comfortable and happy. Even if they really can’t get along halfway, this kind of relationship won’t be very bad. Unlike remarried couples, a divorce is not a property dispute, going to court, or they become enemies with each other, and they don’t communicate with each other.