[Today’s Good Book Sharing]——Spiritual Growth
“Helping You Good Luck” + “The Smallest Action of Happiness” by Liu Xuan
The author studied “Growth Psychology” in the Department of Psychology at Harvard University He also advocates positive psychology in his life and claims to have benefited a lot.
Do not read the title of these two books and mistake them for inspirational success, but “practical reference books” guided by the theory of positive psychology.
The biggest advantage of this book is that it is easy to read + feasible.
The author’s philosophy is: “Small actions that keep accumulating will converge into great luck.”
Limited space, share a few “everyday actions”
① Examine yourself and read people objectively.
Maintain the appropriate sensitivity in life, finding a balance between “being yourself” and “overreading”.
Observing words and expressions: (observation + discrimination + analysis + testing) / conscious + rational thinking.
②Cultivate positive social skills.
Positive attitudes and words, 100% commitment to communication, understanding each other with empathy, not being pretentious, and actively looking for common ground.
③Be a successful “giver”.
Wharton professor Adam Grant did a study and found that there are three types of people in general:
“takers”, “givers” and “fair people” “.
The most successful and most unsuccessful people are “givers”, what’s the difference?
The giver acts in an altruistic spirit, but gets the “resource” to be shared upside down.
Limited resources: time, attention, energy, credit.
Unlimited resources: connections, ideas, knowledge, goodwill.
Those failed “givers” treat limited resources, such as time and energy, as infinitely given to others, but they treat their connections, knowledge, and ideas as treasures and are reluctant to share.
④Daily send lucky signal:
Encourage tolerant language, warm, stable and positive.
⑤Lucky life=minimum goal*feasible minimum effort.
Golden sentence:
Good habits are hard to cultivate, but easy to live.
Bad habits are easy to form, but hard to live.
Only by observing yourself in interaction can you know yourself.
The most important thing in communication is to listen to the unspoken words.
Every conscious breath is a meditation.