Knowing how to ask for help is an excellent ability that allows us to actively connect with the outside world and improve our personality. Real high emotional intelligence starts with learning to trouble others. Knowing how to “trouble” others is the highest level of emotional intelligence. Not disturbing others is actually rejecting the establishment of interpersonal relationships. Because, good interpersonal relationships are caused by trouble.
Troubling others not only makes them feel more alive, but it also brings them closer together. Smart people know that interrupting others occasionally can not only get twice the result with half the effort, but also gain good popularity. No one can be cut off from the world forever and can only live on their own. In fact, “doing nothing to ask for others” is a sign of low emotional intelligence, which will make a person more and more withdrawn. Learning to trouble others is the highest state of emotional intelligence in interpersonal communication. Fighting is a way of bringing friends closer together. You annoy me, I annoy you, and the feelings will get deeper and deeper. Only by learning to ask for help can you go further. People with high emotional intelligence will not worry about bothering others, but will be good at bothering others. Luo Zhenyu said, “To cause trouble to others is essentially a kind of cooperation, and the most important mechanism of human society is cooperation.”
In today’s society, many things require the cooperation of many people. Asking for help is actually a skill, because no one can solve all problems alone. But there are always some people who don’t want to trouble others and always refuse their help. They are accustomed to bear everything alone, to bear difficulties alone, and to put heavy pressure on themselves. No one is an island, and social relationships are ultimately a vast network of relationships. A really good relationship is based on helping each other. A person’s life is a process of troublesome others and helping others to solve their troubles. Appropriately trouble others is conducive to the development of interpersonal relationships.