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< span>Today I want to share with you a story of trust and compassion. I once had a good friend who was the mother of a teenage child. She is a perfectionist mother, and her children are already very good. In those days, the college entrance examination results were pretty good. But my friend is still very anxious. She and her husband have been looking forward to their son’s ability to repeat his studies and want to be admitted to the key universities they expect. However, children are no longer willing to obey their demands, and they have been in a cold war with them. Until they made concessions, the child went to the school he wanted as promised.
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you trusted Are you yourself? Have you ever trusted your child? Have you ever trusted the people around you? If not, I would like to invite you to trust yourself from now on, and you can trust others only when you can begin to trust yourself. Trust means that I am certain in my heart that this person is valuable, that I am unique, and that I believe in this person. No matter what I do, whether it is success or failure, it will not affect my recognition of myself. Trust means that people are people, things are things, and they are strictly separated, so that things do not affect this person.
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When you do wrong Can you forgive yourself when things go wrong? Have you ever denied yourself, attacked yourself in your own heart? Have you brought compassion to yourself? When you can be compassionate to yourself, you can also be compassionate to others. You will know that everyone has their own growth story, and everyone has their own difficulties. You can empathize with other people’s difficulties, and you can forgive yourself for things you can’t do sometimes. You can allow yourself to relax and let go, and you stop forcing yourself to do things you don’t like.
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Learn to take care of your fragile heart. The external strength does not mean that we are strong internally. When we cannot let go of many people and many things, we can learn to let go and give space to those people and things that we cannot let go to settle our inner entanglements and problems. Emotions or pain, give them a storage space to accommodate them. As you continue to do this, you will find that your heart is constantly being opened and placed.
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Put down and be a rescuer ‘s complex. Don’t try to save others. If others don’t invite you to enter, please don’t trespass into other people’s territory. Everyone has a path that he needs to take to grow, everyone can grow into what he wants, everyone can only grow according to their own appearance, they can’t grow according to what you want. . So, please let go of the savior complex, the person you save will feel very uncomfortable, and he will feel disrespected by you. Especially in the family, don’t be a savior, just accept and allow others to be as they are, and believe that everyone’s vitality can bloom freely.
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Bring trust and compassion to yourself. When you can bring trust and compassion into your body, you will be more and more open to the world. Open yourself up and you can experience that love, that deep understanding, that respect. When you have more trust in yourself, you have more trust in others, and when you have more compassion in yourself , you will be able to empathize more, see others more, and have more compassion.