Daughters should be protected, cared for, and held in the palm of their hand. It is true that those who have daughters at home will be a little bit pampered, but no matter how pampered they are, it is recommended that some pits should be avoided. After all, as parents, we cannot accompany our children for a lifetime, and those who have a long way to go still need to go on their own. What we can do is not to restrict them too much because of their gender when they are young.
Therefore, it is recommended that you do not step on these misunderstandings of raising a daughter:
Myth #1: Tell your daughter to be girly
Whether it’s a boy or a girl, it’s a child’s nature to love to play. But until now, I still often hear parents or grandparents say, “playing so crazy, what is it like, a girl should be a girl”.
Girls and boys are treated differently and expected from birth. Most of the toys that parents buy for their daughters are dolls and housewares; toy manufacturers will also make girls’ toys in pink or cute shapes.
Parents expect girls to be beautiful, obedient, and well-behaved.
The author of “Playing Power” says in the book: “Unrealistic and distorted expectations of girls’ appearance send many girls into a swamp of powerlessness.”
The freestyle skiing that made Gu Ailing famous in China needs to take off at a fast speed, spin in the air, and finally land. This series of actions seems to the audience to be smooth and smooth, but the difficulties and challenges behind it cannot be completed without sufficient courage and strength to control.
Skiing is not only difficult, but also dangerous, and Gu Ailing started learning at the age of three. In addition to skiing, she also loves running and playing basketball. These sports, in the eyes of most parents, are not what girls should like. But it is precisely because Gu Ailing’s mother did not limit her because of her gender that she had such a decathlon daughter.
Myth 2: Make your daughter obedient
In addition to requiring girls to be girly, “be good and obedient” is also what parents often say to girls.
Under this requirement, the child will be discouraged from trying and exploring new things and new ideas, because doing so will be considered disobedient and disobedient by the parents.
Children’s curiosity and thirst for knowledge are quenched, they do not feel the joy of independent exploration and knowledge, they only listen to others when they encounter things, they do not have their own opinions and judgments, nor do they know What you want, when you grow up, you can’t be responsible for your own life.
Gu Ailing was interviewed after winning the first gold medal in the Winter Olympics. Facing the provocation of the American reporter, she answered confidently and powerfully: “I am just an 18-year-old girl, and I don’t need to please anyone. People, I enjoy the hard work, take responsibility for my life, and do my best to use my power to bring positive change to my field.”
This is the mind and goal a girl should have.
Misunderstanding 3: I can’t bear my daughter’s hardships
It is a common problem for many “daughter slaves” to be reluctant to bear hardships for their daughters.
But a child’s life is ultimately for the child to face. When she was a child, she was reluctant to endure hardships for her daughter. She did not have enough experience and growth. When she grows up to face the hardships of life, she is likely to choose not get up.
“Give the child a warm and solid support, and also strengthen the child’s wings”, believe that daughters also have infinite potential, and they can achieve many things.
Wang Yaping, who is still on the lunar space station, is China’s first female astronaut who has been in orbit for more than 100 days. Behind her successful flight is the devil’s training. Overweight endurance training alone can make people smell discolored, facial muscles deform, tears flow, breathing difficulties, and confusion. However, Wang Yaping successfully completed these difficult trainings and became China’s first female astronaut to go out of space.
Girls and boys are actually no different. They can solve all kinds of problems and complete all kinds of challenges. They don’t need to protect their daughters, and daughters also need to feel the value and meaning of life in the struggle.
Myth #4: I believe my daughter needs to be rich and not teach her independence
The saying that “daughter needs to be rich” is widely circulated. Many parents believe that they should give their daughters all kinds of good material conditions within their ability, so as not to be abused by boys when they grow up. A small favor is deceived.
Actually, this statement itself is untenable, because a person’s vision is not determined by her material life, her thoughts and her knowledge are the confidence for her to be independent and not be fooled.
Esther Wojcicki, the author of “Silicon Valley Super Parent Class”, is known as the “Silicon Valley Godmother”, and Steve Jobs’ daughter, Jeremy Lin and other celebrities are her students. As a mother, Esther has raised three outstanding daughters, two are company CEOs and one is a professor at a prestigious school.
When asked “how to raise children to be CEOs”, Esther’s answer was, “In children’s long life and learning, they are their own CEOs, parents need Try to teach them to be independent, responsible, share and love. It is more important for them to have a healthy personality than to be a CEO.”
Boys do it, and so do girls.
As parents, we should build a solid backing for our daughters with full love, give them more courage and strength on the way of their daughters’ growth, and cultivate their children to grow up to be independent, confident, and strong-hearted people. Own.
“Parents’ imaginations are limited, and children’s lives have infinite possibilities”, put aside the inherent limitations of girls’ parenting, jump out of the various pits of parenting daughters, and give them a broader stage To explore, to grow.