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“Predecessor” always seems to be a beautiful and heart-wrenching term, but those who have appeared in life will not come in vain. They may have taught you love, maybe they have taught you Growing up may have taught you how to grow and gain wisdom…
Some time ago, we launched a topic solicitation for #My predecessor taught me something#, and we received a lot of messages from readers. Let’s take a look together!
I am a person who is cold on the outside and hot on the inside. The surface is stable and gives people a sense of distance; but my ex was a very outgoing person, often doing some inexplicable things in a hurry. The situation between himself and others is very embarrassing, but he doesn’t take it seriously, he is still a hot-blooded youth.
I thought he was stupid at first, and he would definitely be tricked to death in the future, but later I found out that he is actually quite rare, because many people grow up with Slowly learned to weigh the pros and cons, and lost that momentum.
My ex was a fool, the spirit that sometimes infects me, fills me with energy and courage.
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My ex taught me that no one will leave you and that human nature is really cruel.
My ex and I have been with my ex for almost three years, and two years in different places. I was admitted to the editor two years ago. He has been drawing cakes for me. When there is no car or house, I believe he is right. My feelings have been with him for the exam.
Then he broke up not long after he was admitted to the civil service because he was no longer interested in me, just like a friend. In fact, I know that male civil servants are popular in the system, but I never imagined that a person who has always been affectionate and said that he was always there for me would do such a thing.
At that moment I felt that everything was fake and that underestimating human nature results in a bad hand. The selfishness and coldness in one’s bones really cannot be changed.
My ex taught me to work harder to make money…that’s a good thing
When we were together, I vaguely felt that he had some concerns about my family, work, and income. Although he didn’t say it explicitly, he would say, intentionally or unintentionally: his mother liked his last girlfriend, Is a well-organized kindergarten teacher. Although many, many years have passed since this incident, I still remember it very clearly. I felt that the other party didn’t respect me very much at the time, and after breaking up, he worked even harder.
I don’t want to be a burden to others because of family background, income and other issues, and I don’t want to be looked down upon by others. I hope to gain respect through my own efforts.
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My first love always disliked me, disliked me for all kinds of things…for example, I felt that I was not mature enough, not feminine enough.
Finally, in his dislike, I become more and more mature, but I don’t love him anymore. He finally knew that a woman’s naivety in front of a man was actually an expression of love for him. Is it ridiculous?
Girls can take the initiative, but don’t take the initiative to advance the relationship.
Girls nowadays are really getting braver and more free and easy, which is a good thing. You can take the initiative to pursue the boy you like, you can take the initiative to care about him, etc., but in the promotion of the relationship between the two parties, such as confirming the relationship, having a relationship, seeing parents, getting engaged and getting married, etc., try to let the boy take the initiative.
This is actually not a question of restraint, but a test of whether a boy wants to develop with you for a long time, whether he has planned your future, and whether he has enough courage and determination.
A person who is too enthusiastic at first does not necessarily mean that you are attractive, enough to make the other person fall in love with you at first sight. It is very likely that he has not yet come out of his last relationship and urgently needs another person to accompany him. So don’t be fooled by the illusion at the beginning. Slowly, passionate people become more and more calm, and slow-warming people become more and more deeply emotional. Those who say love first don’t love, and those who are reserved first can’t let go.
My ex taught me to stop struggling with seemingly abrupt endings and realize that it’s just the fate of every relationship and everything. Just like ice cream dropped on the ground, the key is broken in the lock, the balloon flies to the sky, can not come back and stay forever in that moment, you can regret or be sad, but don’t talk about the past, don’t think about maybe, don’t talk about if.
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Don’t use the “breakup” as a weapon to threaten the other person.
Break up is different for boys and girls. The breakup of boys is the final decision after rational weighing; the breakup of girls is just a catharsis after losing control of emotions, and even hopes to attract the attention and attention of the other party.
But we also know that the story of “the wolf is coming” has been played for a long time and no one will believe it…
Loving others requires loving yourself.
The other party will measure the standard of treating you according to the way you treat yourself. If you are casual and indifferent to yourself, the other party will also feel that you do not need meticulous and caring love; If you invest in yourself, the other party will also feel that you have no pursuit of material things, and you are not even worthy of a better life…
So if you want him to love you, set an example for him! Love yourself first!
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He taught me that Love is a human instinct.
I didn’t know I could be so nice to a person without expecting anything in return. I wanted to make him happy, and if he wasn’t happy, I would try to make him happy. I began to learn to forgive, learn to be tolerant, learn not to care too much, and let me know that I still have such a gentle side. Probably like a person is like this, never willing to reject the other person, what kind of makeup to wear early for the next day’s date, as long as there is a little sweetness, you can be happy for several days…
But the separation also made me realize that It turns out that growing up is only a momentary thing.
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Actually, isn’t life a process of constantly meeting and saying goodbye? Maybe the results are not satisfactory, but the things you have learned will always give you something at a certain moment in your life. Help or strength!
From a different angle, cherish every encounter, and discover your own changes and growth. Maybe it’s a better way to let yourself go~
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