The beast is trapped at home, how to communicate with parents and children, learning these three sentences may have miraculous effects

During the epidemic, students are taking online classes at home, and how parents communicate with their children at home is a problem that plagues many parents. Fingertip Shenyang and Shenyang Evening News “Listen to the Rain” psychological service platform received some confusion from parents. How do parents communicate with children? Liang Guangming, deputy director of the Center for Disease Control and Prevention of Shenyang Mental Health Center, an expert from the “Listen to the Rain” platform expert group, gave the following suggestions.

Liang Guangming said that during the epidemic, going out was restricted, and some other potential We are troubled by the risk of stagnation. In this state, it is recommended to increase the interaction with family members, strengthen the connection with family members, and increase attention to family members. Recommend a principle of love to everyone, which can help everyone to deal with family relationships. For example, in our parent-child relationship, on the one hand, we face such physical and mental challenges. First of all, we should set a good example for our children, and show them a correct way to protect their health during home isolation. At the same time, we must show them a good example. A stable life pattern. Because our parents are a template, our children can learn such a healthy lifestyle from this good template.

Three suggestions for parents, that is, learning to speak three sentences. The first is to try not to say negative sentences when asking your child. Replace negative sentences with affirmative sentences. Don’t tell your child: You don’t watch TV! You don’t play there! Just turn it into: what your mom suggested you do. Affirmative sentences are more effective than negative sentences.

The second is to ask the child as little as possible why. For example: why don’t you do your homework? Why are you? “Why” has the taste of criticism and accusation. Replace it with “what”, “how”, eg: Mom wants to know what happened to keep you from finishing your homework? This will make the communication between parents and children easier.

The third suggested that mothers learn to recognize their children’s emotions. Separate your emotions from the guidance on how to do it. No matter what kind of emotional reaction the child has, mother must learn to say a word before you express your opinion: mother understands your emotions very well, and mother does not. Agree with what you do. Separating our emotions from our actions will allow us to communicate more smoothly. Therefore, during the period of home isolation and anti-epidemic, parents are trying to learn new communication methods to make the parent-child relationship more harmonious and communication smoother.

Source: Fingertip Shenyang