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Hello friends, today’s hall six continues the story of The Roar.
This American drama with a Douban score of 7.3 is worth savoring not only because it tells women’s issues from a female perspective, but also because of its ingenuity The structural dilemma faced by women is presented in a grotesque form of expression. The discrimination that was originally regarded as “normal” has become impossible to ignore in the deliberately set “transformation space”.
We talked about “The Woman Feeding the Ducks” the other day, and today we’re going to watch the episode “The Woman With Bite Marks”.
Racism in the delivery room
The first shot of the film is a black woman lying on the delivery bed, her first words are: “Honey, there are too many white people here, maybe that’s why he (the child) doesn’t want to. Come out.” Alluding to the impenetrable barriers between blacks and whites.
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Some friends may find it abrupt when they see this, but in fact, this plot setting is not for no reason.
Black women in the United States are three to four times more likely to die as a result of pregnancy or childbirth than white women, according to the latest assessment from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention’s Pregnancy Mortality Detection System .
Data and research have long demonstrated that women in healthcare are at greater risk of invisible sexism. On this basis, black women will be treated more disadvantageously because of racial discrimination, sometimes threatening their lives.
Ombia nearly died in this hospital.
After the child was born, the husband was busy teasing the child, and the doctors were packing up the medical equipment. Ombiya was lying on the delivery bed alone, feeling that something was wrong. She propped herself up and tried to call the doctor. But the doctor didn’t look back, saying that the effects of the anesthesia could last for hours.
Ombiya said she felt a pressure in her body, and the doctor said it might be hormones that made your mind a little unclear. Umbia stressed that this was not normal, but the doctor told her to relax.
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In short, the doctor turned a blind eye to Ombia’s help.
She had to call her husband, who exclaimed that his wife was bleeding a lot, then Shi Shiran, the doctor who couldn’t pronounce Angbia’s name in the first place, came over and said to have a baby There will always be rivers of blood. But when she walked to Ombiya, she found that her vital signs were fluctuating. Severe uterine weakness and the unprofessional doctor made Ombiya almost die.
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And all of this could have been avoided had the doctor listened to her and valued her feelings.
It is reminiscent of the American tennis superstar Serena Williams, who has won 23 Grand Slam titles in women’s singles and 14 Grand Slam titles in women’s doubles. encountered during productionto life-threatening. When she was giving birth, medical staff ignored her description of her history of blood clots, which nearly killed her.
It’s hard to say if this would have happened if she were a white woman.
Mothering Punishment in the Workplace
Ombia is recovering well and is ready to return to work.
The company knew that she could not travel for two months, so Ombiya estimated that her work would not be too heavy, and she was supported by her husband who was on maternity leave at home. He was very interested in taking care of the children and accompanying them Growing up is fun, so everything should be within your grasp.
She confidently returns to her private office.
She’s a strong performer, no doubt about it, and her co-workers compliment her.
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But while she was on maternity leave, company leaders were still looking for someone who could easily connect to her next job, and Rodney on her team was well-liked and available at any time. may take her place.
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Also, Ombia was told on her first day at work that she needed to travel, no one thought that she had just given birth, her body had not fully recovered, and the baby was at home waiting to be fed. .
Even when she offered to ask the male colleagues to leave her office to pump, she was casually rejected: “Pump here, I’ve seen my wife Pumped a million times.”
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Another male colleague pointed to the fully transparent office and said, “Even if we exit the office, won’t we still be able to see your breasts”.
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Forcing Ombia to hide in a pantry to pump.
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Seeing this, it is estimated that everyone can basically feel that this is a company that does not consider the needs of women.
A woman returning to the workforce with a baby without any care. If you express dissatisfaction, others will question your desire for privilege; if you suggest that men and women are biologically different, they will say you are too weak. Basically, all the rules in the workplace are set by men, so if you want to work hard here, you must be “like a man”, whether you have just given birth or not.
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Even as Ombiya gritted her teeth to keep up, endured physical pain and guilt for her child and sprinted around for work, something was quietly changing because of her fertility: leadership crossed She, directly discussed the work with her subordinate, Rodney, who performed well when she was on maternity leave; the board time was advanced and she was not notified, hoping that Rodney would follow up on the grounds that Ombia needed more leave. Meeting…
Ombia is being left out of a job she is proud of.
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Sociologists refer to this as “motherhood punishment”, which refers to the fact that women in the workplace suffer from compensation, recognition, Welfare is more hindered than that of nulliparous women.
Like Ombia who has returned to the workplace, even though her ability to work has not been greatly reduced because of childbirth, she has never put her work on hold because of family childcare, and she is still the last company to leave work. For those few people, her position power was still uncontrollably eroded and reduced.
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When an important project in her hands is transferred, when her partner prefers her male colleagues, when her husband and children ask her to pay more attention to her family, what should Ombia do? it is good?
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She didn’t have an answer in her mind, and bite marks were all over her body.
Horrible bite marks on body
These terrifying bite marks did not appear in a day. At first it was just a light red mark, then it started to bruise, and then it was a bloody tooth mark, and then there was still tenderness hidden in the wound. teeth…
To understand what these bite marks are all about, let’s first recall when these bite marks started appearing one after another.
Umbia was pumping in the pantry and looking at pictures of her children when she the first bite marks appeared on her chest.
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She had a second bite mark on her chest when she came home late from work and her son was crying and her daughter was complaining.
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Ombia develops deeper bruises on her legs as she puts her daughter to bed and she asks why she can’t stay at home like other mothers, pinching her skin inch by inch Bite marks.
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After she missed her husband’s video call because of work, and ignored her husband’s second call because of her colleagues’ persuasion, Ombia learned that her son had a fever of 40 degrees.
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At this point, the bite marks on her body began to spread to her face and neck, which was so terrifying that she even scared her daughter to tears when she got home.
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That is to say, all bite marks appear when Ombia is facing a balance between family and work, and bite marks appear when she neglects her family because of work; her heart The deeper the guilt towards the family, the scarier the bite.
And she’s not the only woman with bite marks.
Ombia, who fainted at work because of a worsening bite, was taken to the hospital where she nearly died while giving birth. When she woke up, Ombia was in a bad mood. She looked around for the exit of the hospital, but walked into the dark corridor between the doors, and then a “Mom Group” appeared in the In front of Ombiya.
Women sitting together in a circle have Ombia-like bite marks on their faces.
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She, still confused, asked them, “What is this? Is there an outbreak? Are we in quarantine?”
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The leading woman smiled gently: “No, why don’t you tell us what happened to you? When did the bite start?“
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These bite marks appeared when she went back to work, which was difficult.
Woman asks: “What do you think is that?”
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Ombiya, who had refused to join the mother group, walked to the empty chair step by step and sat down in a confession: because she was one of three women at the partner level of the company One; because her daughter didn’t like her leaving, so when Omnia was around her, her daughter would pinch her skin; because her husband resented her, even if he tried not to do that; because Omnia nearly died of hemorrhage while giving birth to her son, So when she looks at her son she can only think of bad things and can never tell him how wonderful his birth was.
▲Image source: “Roaring Woman with Bite Marks”
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The camera swept across the scars of every mother present, and they all endured the same torture and tearing.
Ombia says: “I feel guilty every day.”
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The woman affirmed the answer, saying, “Yes, you’re letting guilt consume you.”
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The camera then keeps receding, and the mothers in a circle look retained and helpless.
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Facing work and children, the guilt of not being able to accompany and obstacles in the workplace are everywhere. How to solve such a situation? This is the problem presented by “Woman with a Bite”, but at the same time it is also a consolation for mothers who are struggling to take care of their families and work: Don’t feel guilty, don’t blame yourself, you’ve done enough.
Ombia’s wounds began to heal when she began to reconcile with herself, realizing that the bite marks on her body were caused by guilt about her family. After letting go of her tense nerves and masochistic emotions, Ombia and her husband sat face to face, chatting, laughing and chatting after a long time. They ate jelly, biscuits, and talked insignificant things. It seems that everything is getting better strong>.
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But back outside the film, we still can’t take it easy, after all, not every working mother can have a husband who can and is willing to take maternity leave and share childcare with her.
If “how to balance work and family” is always a unilateral issue for women, then the discrimination and obstacles women face in the workplace cannot be eradicated. For the better career development, more women are bound to choose to postpone the age of childbearing or not have children, which will become a vicious circle that is difficult to break.
Creating a fertility-friendly society is imminent, but before that, we need to jointly create a gender-friendly society, otherwise we will end up paying for the discrimination and injustice in the end. everyone
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