Children with depression
, parental help is very important. If there are too many demands on the child, the child is overwhelmed, or the existence of the child is ignored too much, it will cause the child’s psychological pressure.
Depression, no matter what degree it is, is a chronic mental disease. The use of psychological or drug treatment is only a temporary way. Once setbacks are encountered in the future, it may relapse. Learning to adjust to stress and self-healing can truly get rid of the entanglement of depression.
In addition, parents should also teach other normal children to face depression with a correct attitude. The best way is “family therapy”, that is, led by a professional, let the whole family meet together Yes, parents act as facilitators to help children get out of depression and become more confident.
How can parents help their children prevent or overcome depression? Psychological expert Professor Rong Xinqi suggested that you can start from the following 10 points.
1. Know what your child does and thinks?
Adolescents are troubled by issues such as study, interpersonal relationships, emotional problems, future, appearance, etc. In this stage of turning from a child into an adult, they seem to have a vague understanding of the world. Parents should be concerned about what their children are doing in school and in life? what happened? At the same time, we understand the physical and mental changes of children, how much pressure the rapidly changing society puts on children, as well as their expectations for future survival, and what competitiveness they hope to have.
2. Pay attention to your child’s usual reactions to things
Parents do not wait until their children have abnormal behaviors to pay attention to them. Usually, they should carefully observe their words and deeds. For example, will they withdraw or escape? Did you suddenly organize your favorite things to give away? Just want to be home alone? Sometimes the response to depression is not a bad mood, but a cheerful, lively way that may also be a suicidal tendency or precursor. In any case, when the child “changes a person”, it is necessary to pay special attention.
Pay attention to your child’s daily routine, study, and friendships, so that children can go to school when they need to go to school, rest when they need to rest, and get adequate physical satisfaction and life care, and don’t disrupt the child’s life. order, so that the body and mind are not properly adjusted.
3. Take the opportunity to be with your child
Although children can be handed over to schools, tutored by teachers, or prescribed medication by doctors, children spend the most time with their parents after all, so don’t ignore the importance of building relationships with children .
It is recommended to discuss homework, participate in group activities or do outdoor sports with children, or even play electric games together, so that children feel that their parents are “together” with themselves. Usually, parent-child interaction is frequent, and most children will Treat your parents as people to talk to.
4. Act as a listener
Listen more to the voice of the child, watch their usual behavior, and pay attention to their frustrations. It is easier to detect the abnormality of the child, and then encourage and assist from the side. “Listening more” is a skill, don’t just waste time on “lecturing”, and don’t deliberately ask your child to sit down and talk, communication in life, intentionally or unintentionally, is the most effective channel.
5. Take on a problem-solving role
If you find that your child has “abnormalities”, it is best to take the opportunity to use words to motivate your child during small talk, but you should never help your child make decisions while encouraging. The function of parents is to provide solutions to difficulties in life, and to play the role of guiding mazes or answering doubts. Only in this way can children know that their parents can help them. Parents should also always know and be familiar with their children’s friends and teachers so that they can find suitable candidates immediately if they need help.
6. Absorb more relevant new knowledge
When depression becomes moderate or severe, “seeking a doctor” is the best thing to do, but it is usually less acceptable for parents than for children. Always accept new information so that there will be no biased cognition. Nowadays, children’s concept of depression is sometimes even richer than that of their parents. Parents can usually participate in health education courses in medical institutions to absorb more information about depression and strengthen their new concepts. Don’t look at children with depression in the traditional way, thinking that the children are just “in a bad mood”, and asking them to be brave and strong will not help the condition at all.
7. Parents and children explore the causes of depression together
There are many ways to deal with depression, such as exercise, reading, finding someone to talk to, writing a diary, etc., but they may not be suitable for everyone. It is best for parents to help their children from the sidelines, do it together with their children, and jointly discover the methods that suit them. , do not ask the child “what should be done” or “what should not be done”, but suppress the child’s inner emotions and cannot express it.
Also, find out if your child has “negative perceptions” or unrealistic views of themselves, such as being critical of many things or having low tolerance. Parents and children think about the crux of the problem and face it together. Parents can gradually help their children establish a positive view. Don’t only pay attention to the child’s weaknesses and ignore his strengths.
8. Accept that your child has depression
Some parents deny or cannot accept that their child has depression, often thinking that the child is just too stressed or too stressed with schoolwork. Parents must have “the psychological preparation and courage to face the facts”, recognize the facts clearly, and consider whether to receive psychological counseling or medical treatment according to the child’s symptoms, so as not to delay the child’s illness.
9. Make use of the child’s teachers and friends
Parents should know how to use the interpersonal relationships such as teachers and friends around their children to exert influence, such as finding teachers trusted by their children for psychological counseling, or asking their children’s friends to accompany their children to school, so that It is a more effective way for children to have the motivation to go to school.
10. Assist with medical treatment and medication
Depression symptoms range from mild to severe, sometimes requiring only psychotherapy and sometimes medication. Psychotherapy, such as group therapy, hypnotic self-healing, etc., in hospitals or in various counties and cities, there are spontaneous physical and mental adjustment meetings for patients with depression, and regular lectures or service activities are held to allow patients to affirm the value of their own existence.
If you need to accompany your child to see a doctor, you can “do your homework” in advance to summarize the child’s condition and problems, so that the doctor can ask and discuss further, and at the same time cooperate with the doctor’s advice and instructions to understand the doctor’s Is the diagnosis clear? At the same time, remind children to take medicine and supervise medicine.
The top ten suggestions above should be taken seriously before it happens, to prevent it from happening, and if the child does suffer from depression, continue to do it.